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[albanwr26]

The wedding day belongs to the bride . It is the brides day .
I would save myself the grief and the expense and have a small IMMEDIATE FAMILY wedding . Invite just the parents from each side . Then if one or the other family wants to make a bigger deal,
they can make a party for you at a later date .... Don't let anyone spoil your wedding ,not even your mother in law . Speak up .... she's trying to set the tone for the future by taking control.

[adelphos]

Say no. This isn't about money, and you don't want your MIL to get in this habit of bossing you around.

Tell her that you feel your family has been left out, and you have to find a way to include them before you can consider adding any other members to the wedding party.

[han]

ok so first of all the bridesmaid and grooms men...
i think its more like the bride picks her bridemaids, and the guy picks his groomsmen... so there should be absolutly no questions with none of ur bros being there.... then with his sister.. are you maybe close to her? because if thats the case then it is ok to do the sister as ur bridesmade and then u pick the others? cuz if u dont know her that well i duno i would think you should have just said you promised it to someone else :P

now i want to comment on the location... i dont think you should worry where the wedding is... like if someone is actualy chipping in then i would say just have a bigger wedding... allow them to coose where, the only downside i would see is distance traveled on your side ? but its your wedding, they will all come :) ... so yah if they chiping in the wedding a bit then its cool to let them have it closer to their home

finaly the junior stuff... one thing you could do is agree to this... BUT first come up with something good you want.. so you say yah ill do this for you but im going to want ______ w.e :P so you can get some of your family in this?

but i do kinda understand where you coming from here... so try that method, you could also say you want to put some at least one brother in the wedding? and she should find a good spot for him? just sayin


but yah im just throwing ideas out there and offering my point of view on these things, so im sorry if you might not agree with it? but yah just helping :)

[rolfe16]

It's your day! Do what you want. It's got nothing to do with her contribution. So she's helping her son with some expenses, so what! Stand your ground on this issue. Seems like you haven't had everything your way as you are a very accepting person. Don't be walked all over on your wedding day! Good luck.