Im being blackmailed by my daughters ex! Im ashamed! Ive done illegal things. What should I do? Turn myself in?

[thacher]

I've made a horrific mistake, and now I think, that I am running the risk of me ending up in prison for years, and my family being horrified for what I've done, I was a law abiding Christian, good citizen, military and family man, and Im also a former police officer, and now I've been drawn into things I'm extremely ashamed off. And I need to know what I can legally do. The man responsible for this has broken the law, but so have I.

It all started when my 19 year old daughter, started dating this guy named Thomas who is 25, he was a horrific influence and when I met him I knew it. He always smelled like beer, pot, and cigarettes. He was rude and crass. I told my daughter she could not see him and she said since she was an adult she could do whatever she wanted.

So I went to see Tom at his place, and that's when I made the most horrific mistake in my life, when he opened the door he was obviosly high and drunk and when I tried talking to him he started making very vulgar sexual remarks relating to my daughter. And then he insulted me.

I lost it. I started hitting him and hitting him and I even grabbed a his beer bottle and hit him in the face with it. He was practically out cold and I was shocked. So I left and went back home, waiting for the police to come.

You have to understand. This man had been a horrible influence on my daughter, he gave her drugs, slept with her, and gave her alcohol.

Well, the police didnt come but he did call me and told me to come to his place again, and I did. Since I was a bit scared, I brought my gun, with me.

So I got there and then the little prick blackmailed me. He said that he had security cameras in his place and that he took pictures of his wounds after I beat him, and that if I didnt give him money or do favors for him he would call the police and press charges against me. He even showed me the video tapes.

I agreed, and now I have to pay him 1000 dollars a month! and that's the least of it. But at least he did break up with my daughter.

Since this, he called me once, and he told me he was buying marijuana growing equipment and that he needed a bodyguard, and said he wanted me there with my gun. And I went, I felt so ashamed to be involed in the equivalent of a drug deal.

And it has not stopped there, he also had me accompany him when he was buying cocaine. So I was an accesory to an actual drug deal.

I dont know what to do! What I did to him which he recorded is serious assault! and Im not too sure which is worse blackmail or what I did to him, but since then I've also broken other laws because of him.

And 2 days ago, the worst happened. This lunatic, apprantly also sells pot. and he called me and wanted me to accompany him to another drug deal. and I did due to his blackmail.

Well, after the drug deal, we BOTH got arrested for Possession of Marijuana with Intent to Distribute.

I felt so ashamed, I was taken to the county jail where in the past I'd taken criminals, and I even had to share a cell with this lowlife.

Well now this is it for me. I told him I was not going to take part in this any more, and he threatened to press charges on me for the assault and tell the DA about our other activities.

what should I do? The pot charge is not serious, but how can I get this guy to back off?

He is blackmailing me but I also did assault him, and what I've done with him recently my family can never know!

Please advice me.

PS- during this story I am in no way admitting to any crimes and due to this being an internet forum any stories could be false and could not be used against me.

[andor25]

He wont tell police about the coke and that cause he is not going to want to get arrested again, blackmail him back tell him if he going tell them about you beating him up you going tell police all he been involed in cause you where there but was not you handing money over for drugs or selling drugs. Just play him back at his own game

[newyddilyn60]

Past i past don't think of it and don't be panic.Make a plan to collect all the video footage and photos of you beating him.Get all the information of his drug deal,record it and produce it in front of court. Then make his life a hell.

[ayize]

I highly doubt he will have you charged, as he would have to admit to all the illegal activity that he was also involved in. You have two choices really, change your numbers, cut all contact, move if you have to. Or keep being his B**** and further involve yourself in illegal activity.

[erwin]

Beat his a$$ until he shuts up. Keep beating him. And beating him. Take him out to a deserted area and beat him. Take his tapes. Drugs etc. robb him, beat him. My friends do this to random ppl all the time n they are 20year olds. Shouldnt b that hard for youu