I am being blackmailed into illegal things by my daughter's ex! What should I do? Come clean? Im ashamed?

by **coinleain** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 2:46 pm

I've made a horrific mistake, and now I think, that I am running the risk of me ending up in prison for years, and my family being horrified for what I've done, I was a law abiding Christian, good citizen, military and family man, and Im also a former police officer, and now I've been drawn into things I'm extremely ashamed off. And I need to know what I can legally do. The man responsible for this has broken the law, but so have I.

It all started when my 19 year old daughter, started dating this guy named Thomas who is 25, he was a horrific influence and when I met him I knew it. He always smelled like beer, pot, and cigarettes. He was rude and crass. I told my daughter she could not see him and she said since she was an adult she could do whatever she wanted.

So I went to see Tom at his place, and that's when I made the most horrific mistake in my life, when he opened the door he was obviosly high and drunk and when I tried talking to him he started making very vulgar sexual remarks relating to my daughter. And then he insulted me.

I lost it. I started hitting him and hitting him and I even grabbed a his beer bottle and hit him in the face with it. He was practically out cold and I was shocked. So I left and went back home, waiting for the police to come.

You have to understand. This man had been a horrible influence on my daughter, he gave her drugs, slept with her, and gave her alcohol.

Well, the police didnt come but he did call me and told me to come to his place again, and I did. Since I was a bit scared, I brought my gun, with me.

So I got there and then the little prick blackmailed me. He said that he had security cameras in his place and that he took pictures of his wounds after I beat him, and that if I didnt give him money or do favors for him he would call the police and press charges against me. He even showed me the video tapes.

I agreed, and now I have to pay him 1000 dollars a month! and that's the least of it. But at least he did break up with my daughter.

Since this, he called me once, and he told me he was buying marijuana growing equipment and that he needed a bodyguard, and said he wanted me there with my gun. And I went, I felt so ashamed to be involed in the equivalent of a drug deal.

And it has not stopped there, he also had me accompany him when he was buying cocaine. So I was an accesory to an actual drug deal.

I dont know what to do! What I did to him which he recorded is serious assault! and Im not too sure which is worse blackmail or what I did to him, but since then I've also broken other laws because of him.

And 2 days ago, the worst happened. This lunatic, apprantly also sells pot. and he called me and wanted me to accompany him to another drug deal. and I did due to his blackmail.

Well, after the drug deal, we BOTH got arrested for Possession of Marijuana with Intent to Distribute.

I felt so ashamed, I was taken to the county jail where in the past I'd taken criminals, and I even had to share a cell with this lowlife.

Well now this is it for me. I told him I was not going to take part in this any more, and he threatened to press charges on me for the assault and tell the DA about our other activities.

what should I do? The pot charge is not serious, but how can I get this guy to back off?

He is blackmailing me but I also did assault him, and what I've done with him recently my family can never know!

Please advice me.

PS- during this story I am in no way admitting to any crimes and due to this being an internet forum any stories could be false and could not be used against me.

by **caspar99** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 2:47 pm

enjoy jail say hi to bubba

by **bergh39** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 2:58 pm

He can't call the cops because he's a drug dealer so why ur scared, kick his ***

by **therron57** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 3:01 pm

He can't call the cops because he's a drug dealer so why ur scared, kick his ***

1. You're in a hole. Stop digging. Have nothing else to do with this scumbag. You are in danger of getting in to a worse situation than the one he's threatening you with.

2. Get yourself a lawyer and find out what your legal situation is.

3. Don't do anything other than this.

We all make mistakes mate. Your family loves you. They might think you've been an idiot, but they still love you.

Good luck.

by **han** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 3:04 pm

Since this is a HYPOTHETICAL scenario based on completely FICTIONAL CHARACTERS, I would suggest that the former police officer in question seek legal counsel through an Attorney of Law since everything said to a Lawyer is held in complete animosity. I would also suggest looking up the Statute of Limitations on assault in the area in which the person in question resides. This scumbag drug dealer could be counter charged with Blackmail, Threatening and Placing lives in Danger, a multitude of drug charges if The Former Police Officer can get security camera footage of the drug deals actually happening, and technically, if the Hypothetical person wanted to get creative, I'm sure there's a way to also charge this man with kidnapping if the Former police Officer didn't want to go with scumbag to accompany him on drug deals and so forth. I suggest that the person in question contacts the DA before Scumbag can then it won't be a He said, She said. Personally, I'd fess up and take my chances with an assault charge

by **jarl** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 3:10 pm

No one will believe him his a drug dealer.

by **calvert** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 3:13 pm

Your crime is not finishing what you started.

by **amdt57** » Tue Jul 31, 2012 3:15 pm

I agree with fly's in my face, with the exception of hiring an attorney. Do that IF he does press charges which he likely will never do. Make them do the hard work (which they don't)
Other than beating his ***, can he prove any of the other crimes?
Denial! denial! denial! Call a liar a liar!

Tell him NO. GIVE HIM NOTHING! Act innocent, as if he's recording you again.
If he tries black-mailing you say "I'm recording you" and play it back for him.
I wouldn't worry about one assault charge, for $1,000.00 a decent attorney can beat it for you~especially $12,000 if you're planning on paying this punk for an entire year, psssh.

Hopefully he doesn't know how important your family is...
Hopefully the thought of snitching to your family never entered his mind.
Regarding your family, beating his *** might make you a hero.
Forget and never mention all the other stuff again! It didn't happen. Especially when talking to him!

Sounds like you're the one with the gun.
Myself, I refuse to spend the rest of my life with regrets... With no self respect.
I'd goto his house as a friend, kill the power/batteries... F-cking with me again will be the last thing that enters his head.

Goodluck
Proud felon

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