In need of advice concerning my fiance's father and how best to deal with the situation?

[gofraidh34]

For a while now I've been having problems with my fiance's psycho father whom I think needs to be committed and my fiance agrees but says it takes 3 family members to do it, and his older sister is as crazy as their dad and had been stalking me on facebook 'til I set my profile to private. My fiance's dad decided to chew me out the fourth of July about having called the cops on him because he was harassing and threatening me. Apparently when I told the cop that about it, the cop assumed that when I said he'd threatened me, he'd threatened to kill me and said so. So my fiance's dad was getting after me about lying to the police. Whether he'd threatened to kill me or not, I know threatening in any form, or even just the harassing is illegal. He seems to be of the opinion that he is above the law though. He even said that the cops in my town don't have jurisdiction with him (he lives on the other side of the next town over), and the county cop that had gone out there is now their neighbor and my fiance's dad is apparently friends with the county cop's uncle, so my fiance's dad believes he has that cop in his back pocket. I know from witnessing and from what he and my fiance have said, that he is mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive, and also lacks any empathy. From what my fiance has said, and what his dad said 4h of July night, if I call the cops on him again, I guess he's going to pull strings and have me locked up. He said something about a drug sniffing dog and according to my fiance, he has been telling everyone I'm on drugs. Only way I'd have drugs would be if he (or someone under his influence) planted them on me, which I wouldn't put past him. He made it clear that if I ever called the cops on him, he'd pull strings and cause problems for me. He brought up the subject of his oldest daughter and her now ex husband. From what he's said it sounds like his daughter and her husband were in the military and had a daughter, whom my fiance's father and his wife were taking care of. Apparently my fiance's oldest sister decided to divorce her husband and decided she didn't want her daughter. My fiance's dad claims to have made sure she got out of service with an honorable discharge, pulled strings to get her husband kicked out with a dishonorable discharge, adopted his granddaughter, and disowned his daughter. He's one of those who doesn't believe in the saying "to err is human", with him one cannot learn from their mistakes, and forgiveness is not in his vocabulary. Complains about my sisters (and from what I heard, drives past my youngest sister's yelling about her) for being stay-at-home-moms which he does not approve of. He thinks my Dad is lazy even though he logs, works at Lands' End during peak season, and is on the fire department, since sometimes my Dad has problems due to PTSD. He also doesn't believe my Dad could make the money he occasionally makes selling coins (which my Dad does buy and sell coins), and insists coins is code for drugs even though I once took a video of one of my Dad's sellings. He's mainly on my fiance and me about me not having a job even though I've told him that there aren't many jobs around here I can do because of a problem I have with my spine. I talked to the manager of this fitness place and plan to start instructing there in the fall, and told him so, he didn't believe me and thinks I should also get another job, though with my classes I need to do A LOT of practicing/training. It's difficult for my fiance to get away from him (even though he's thrown a saw at him which hit him on the cheek, and at a different time hit him with his hand) since they farm and my fiance owns the majority of the land and stuff but his dad owns the house and a small portion of the land, and also helps do work. My writing job isn't good enough for him since he doesn't see it as a "real job" and doesn't think I make enough. I also make a little doing surveys online. Their farm is worth a quarter of a million (so $250,000) which he thinks is A LOT since a million's a lot. He seems to compare what others make with that and if you make more than he thinks you should be making doing whatever job, he thinks you're dealing in and doing drugs.

[shashank]

Unless you n your fiance plan to cut all ties for life with his family then you deserve what you get if you are dumb enough to marry into this family.If you do,then get a gun and learn and be prepared to use it on the family idiot.