Is it normal for my own father to be against me succeeding and following my dreams?

by **lawly1** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 8:42 pm

It's so weird cause my dad has said some negative things about me getting into the film industry. I've been so passionate about making movies and it seems like my dad lacks common sense, since he DOESN'T want me to get into a film school and once told me that "I'll never make it", even though I've been taking film classes at my community college.

I once told him that I wrote a script and his reaction was, "Who would want to read your screenplay? No one will read it", yet he never even read a page of it and was being judgmental about it. This kind of made me want to become a director, since some writers direct their own movies.

Why is my father against me succeeding and following my dream? His words and actions make little to no sense. Let me know what you think.

by **ashbey15** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 8:54 pm

its not a fathers job to support every half baked idea that there children come up with.

by **dodya** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:09 pm

well maybe its not normal, but you can find an advantage in this. you can look at your work from another perspective, ie is your dad's view, so just take this as an advantage to look at all plausible situations u can face!!

at the end just prove it to him that, U CAN SUCCEED!!

by **link** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:16 pm

alot of parents are like that, including mine. the reason why is because he's worried about your future, he wants you to have a steady paycheck and be able to provide for yourself, because the film industry isn't like that he's freakin out. haha i would love to go into directing but my mom wants me to be a kindergarden teacher -_- my advice would either be go for your dream, work hard and prove him wrong. just sayin :)

by **wattekinson86** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:23 pm

My mom was the same way. I wanted to be a model and my mom told me I would never make it because I don't have "the look"

I think she wanted me to succeed, she just wanted me to be more realistic with my dreams. It's probably the same way with your dad.

Then I started modeling. Not for any big names, but I still modeled.

Prove to them you'll make it!

by **gwynethpaltrow8** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:34 pm

Don't listen to him. Think of it this way. Where
would you want to be 20 years from now. Are you going
to succeed. That should help YOU find out about yourself.

by **deangelo51** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:36 pm

Maybe he realises that the chances of you succeeding are slim to nothing.

by **bergh39** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:42 pm

Your father's response was harsh and judgemental. You never know as far as what you have tried whether its succesful or not, the fact that you put in the effort in itself deserves merit. However, in this economic spriral, its understandable that your dad is concerned that you may if not lucky enough to get noticed in the entertainment industry, which chances are low but still there, he worries that you may need to fall back on a second plan if your first does not go as well as you think. I'm sure he cares, he just shows it in not the best way.

by **mohammed47** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 9:52 pm

Work hard at your dream, but learn a trade too. Did you know welders make $35 an hour. Find a useful trade and practice your dream. Be practical.

by **ezri** » Wed Aug 01, 2012 10:10 pm

Parents think their dreams are better and want to live through their children sometimes, or it could be he wants you to have a more dependable future and sees your dream as frivolous and hard to reach. He does not realize when he says those things how hurtful they are and that he is putting a wall between the both of you.

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