Is it right for family member to offer to take half the family on vacation?

by **mate** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:46 pm

Husband and wife were married, each has one child from a previous marriage. The wife's mom wants to take the wife and her daughter on vacation for a week, knowing the husband and his child cannot afford to go, and wife couldn't afford to go if mom didn't pay all expenses. Husband isn't upset because he can't afford it, but because his mother in law is even suggesting this. Do you think they should take separate vacations? Or do you think someone is out of line here? And who is out of line?

by **mohammed47** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:47 pm

I think you should not go on separate vacations as none of you would enjoy with each other neither the husband nor the wife. Its better to go together to some cheap vacation spot then to go alone to some expensive place without your partner. You can go to panama as it is the most cheapest place in for having a good vacation with your family and you would also enjoy there the most. As you would get good choices of resorts over there thats suites best to your husband's budget.

by **symington** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:55 pm

I don't see it as a problem at all. It's bonding time between mother daughter and granddaughter. Perhaps the other child is significantly younger and would be unable to enjoy the festivities that are planned. Husband should consider this bonding time with his youngest. Nobody is out of line. He is simply making mountains out of molehills by taking offense where none is intended.

by **choviohoya** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:13 pm

It would be nice for her to offer to take all of you but it's not a requirement to travel solely as a family all the time.

My daughter and I went to Disney this past winter with my sister and her family and my husband stayed home. He wasn't directly excluded but he's not very fond of my sister's kids so really, it was a win-win. I didn't have to deal with his complaining and he got to stay home and ice fish.

It's not the first time I've traveled without him and it won't be the last...

by **iomar** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:19 pm

Lots of questions needed answered before people give you an answer.

1. How long have you been married?
2. Has the MIL spent any time with you and your child?
3. Is there restrictions on the sleeping situation (condo only allows occupancy of 4)?
3. What is the MIL reason for just asking the daughter and granddaughter?

by **jasper** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:29 pm

The Mother in law is out of line. She should take all of you or none of you. I wouldn't go if my Mother suggested this.

Wow, talk about dividing a family, what is wrong with people.

by **kirklin** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:39 pm

there's no right or wrong here, if the husband isn't upset then there isn't a problem, and he and his child can spend some quality time together.

by **edmondo93** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:52 pm

MIL is way out of line. The family unit consists of four people, not two.

by **pascoe69** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:55 pm

MIL is way out of line. The family unit consists of four people, not two.

How long have y'all been together? That is a HUGE factor.

by **freedom97** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 5:56 pm

maybe she just wants to be with her daughter, mom and daughter and grandkids time?

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