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[darik2]

My boyfriend of almost 3 years has tried getting me away from my home situation for YEARS. I know this is nasty, but I was 13 and he was 17 when we started dating. He is my best friend and always has been. My dad did not mind him until he saw my boyfriend was trying to get me away from my father's abusive ways. He is 19 and I am almost 16. My mom loves him and my father HATES him (not for the age reason, shockingly). My dilemma is that my father is emotionally abusive and use to be physically abusive. He choked my boyfriend before, he hurt my mother and he use to hit all of my brothers and even my older sister. When my parents divorced, he stopped hurting me physically, but started hurting me emotionally. For example, I am 5'2 and weigh 104 lbs NOT by choice. I lost 20 pounds in one month due to lack of food last August. I gained two pounds in the past nine months. My school called my home because I lost 20-25 pounds since last school year. I did not look healthy for a while, either. I get sick a LOT and I am very stressed out because of this.
My father NEVER gets me help. I may also have most symptoms of diabetes and he does not want me getting looked at even though my mother has a feeling I should. My boyfriend lives with his three friends and their mother who is such a kindhearted lady who would have no problem at all letting me live there. My father makes fun of me when I cry and my dad is a large part of my depression and suicidal thoughts.

My father is scary because you never know his temper. He screams a lot at me and makes me feel like ****. He yelled at me for being depressed and crying because my brother has been in the hospital for 2 months with aids and may pass away. MY FATHER ALSO NEVER SEE'S MY BROTHER AND MY MOM DOES DAILY!!! My mom has guilt when she does not see my brother. My father is very negative about this as well..

My father is also unfair. For example the same day my dad let my twin go to her actual girlfriends house who lives over an hour and a half away for a sleep over, he would not let me go 20 minutes away for a sleepover.. Why? Because he said so.

Im not a troubled child who does drugs. I have never been in trouble with the law at all either! I am a very respectful kid but he treats me terrible.

What should I do?
How could this lady take care of me?
I do not trust anyone in my family to care for me
My mother can not provide for me

HELP!

[blaeey]

See your school counsellor! They can get you help!

[regenweald]

Just have in mind that you still are going to college.
Expenses will be alot. But If he can support you financially, then why not?

Since you're still not 18, you can't legally move out
without being emancipated by your legal guardians.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Emancipated-as-a-Teen

You're risking your future,
and you're leaving your mom.
Also, think of the possibility that anytime, your boyfriend
might leave you because he can't support you.

If you're ready for all that, then yeah.


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[mate]

Call a social security worker, they will try to find a way to keep you with your family but be safe at the same time.

[ahanu]

first of all get an education i meant you must enroll in a school to get a high school diploma,so that u can get a decent job not like washing up or cleaning stuffs in a restaurent,secondly wait for just 2 more yaers till your 18 n get a decent job after u get ur degree n a stedy job,thirdly never think of runnung away with a bf who can also dump you just like ur parents,lastly dont get too emotional,if ur good looking try out local modelling oditions if not then stick out with school n contact local counselors as well as teen helping organization to listen to your needs.

[dodya]

first off to say real quick--- I hope you and your bf are not having sexual relations if you live somewhere that it is not allowed because then your bf can get into trouble with the law---depending on where it is you live and the law for that location. because then your dad can get your bf in trouble with the law.

secondly and most importantly-- this is serious stuff..you should reach out to a trusted adult at your school-guidance counselors or someone. i urge you to please reach out--there are so many people out there dedicated to helping people out in your type of situation.

Either your whole family needs to get away from your father Or your father needs help to change his ways. But you really need to report this and talk about your options and go from there..they will tell you the next steps. they may be required to report your father so you may want to call a hotline anonymously and discuss your options. but just know that help is out there!
he hates your bf because he can see he doesnt have as much control over you emotionally because of the support you have from your bf and that just makes him try to abuse you more and more emotionally.
But just hang on….don’t be suicidal ...you will get through this… stay strong like you have been. and only talk to the people in your family you trust--think of your safety first.

and being that your safety comes first---i strongly disagree with waiting it out for 2 years longer until college because as you said--you never know your dad's temper and he has past history of physical abuse. it would be a risk and it may take too much of a toll on you in that time..your health is also very much in danger as you explained.