My Husband And I Have Been Miserable For Years. I Told Him I Want A Divorce, And Saw A Lawyer.

[Arawn]

He is afraid of losing all his assets, and doesn't want to give up any of his money. Wants us to just lead separate lives.Does that mean, that if I invite a friend to stay here, who cheers me up, and keeps me going, I can do that?Or does he have the right to throw the person out? The house is in both our names. Husband won't go to mediation, and has cut me off from the bank card, and check book. Right now I hate his guts.I will call the lawyer, but what are my rights here? has anyone ever had an experience like this?Friend is willing to pay rent, and live here. Husband wants separate lives.should I go the lawyer route, or what? Somebody please help. I am drowning.

[newyddilyn60]

how much you can and will get. State laws are all different so it is hard to tell about rights in each case. It will also depend on how long you had been married.   It is sad that people put property ahead of human compassion and consideration, but there it is.    Brave friend who wants to get in the middle of a squabbling couple in the middle of a bad divorce. Make sure anything you do is in writing to protect both of you, a rental agreement, for example. If the house is in both your names that will make things much easier.   If you can try to get him to be reasonable it will go a lot faster and smoother. You need to make sure that you have enough money to live on and you need to document the exact reasons why you want a divorce, with specific incidents.    Then go to the lawyer. At all times, you need to appear to be reasonable, not angry or vindictive. Gather your evidence and get out of the marriage with dignity and some decent provisions for your future. You don't mention kids so that is a good thing!   best of luck with it!  

[Chazaiah]

You should seek legal advice immediately. You have rights regarding support even if you get a legal separation. I think a legal separation allows you to live separate lives but you have to get the financial thing straightened out.  You are his legal spouse and he can't cut you off completely without some kind of financial legal arrangement.  You haven't mentioned whether friend willing to pay rent is a man or a woman.  Run, don't walk to a divorce attorney. MaryAnn 51 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Garafeld]

Whatever you do, always meet the opposite sex in public... Never be with someone of the opposite sex alone, behind close doors,  even if you are legally seperated. Always, meet in public, or if they are invited to your home, have someone else there to vouch for you.    The place should be yours too, whether it's in your name or not, as long as it was purchased while you two were married, so if the friend is of the opposite sex, their shouldn't be any problem.  Whatever was accumulated during the marriage is yours too, except in some circumstances, like inheritance.     Go the lawyer route, and do it ASAP.  Your attorney can get the courts, to unfreeze those assets of his, and you can do what is do to you.     Don't be fooled into thinking it will okay to move a friend in of the opposite sex, he'll get you for adultery, whether you two agreed upon it being okay to move someone else in or not.  You move your friend in, say goodbye to getting the assets you want.  You've waited this long for somebody to be with, you can wait a bit longer.   I can understand your hating him, but keep your head above the water, and suck in all that oxygen, and stay level headed.  Keep your emotions in check, don't let him get to you.   Call an attorney ASAP!!! Sources: personal opinion yadwena 51 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Meade]

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[Bao]

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[wetherby]

What he's proposing is a recipe for misery. You don't want to spend the rest of your life in a prison in your own home.  Every day will be another opportunity for confrontation and conflict.   Make an appointment to see your lawer ASAP and find out what your rights are under the circumstances.   I hope you are able to gather up your stuff and move out very soon.  You need to file for divorce now before he has any more time to mess with the finances and hide assets from you.   You deserve happiness and it won't come until you've settled this major conflict in your life.  What he is proposing is not a marraige, nor is it friendship. Sources: personal opinion pattiann 51 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Wambleesha]

You don't want to spend the rest of your life in a prison in your own home.  Every day will be another opportunity for confrontation and conflict.   Make an appointment to see your lawer ASAP and find out what your rights are under the circumstances.   I hope you are able to gather up your stuff and move out very soon.  You need to file for divorce now before he has any more time to mess with the finances and hide assets from you.   You deserve happiness and it won't come until you've settled this major conflict in your life.  What he is proposing is not a marraige, nor is it friendship.

[Arlin]

a legal separation allows you to live separate lives but you have to get the financial thing straightened out.  You are his legal spouse and he can't cut you off completely without some kind of financial legal arrangement.  You haven't mentioned whether friend willing to pay rent is a man or a woman.  Run, don't walk to a divorce attorney.

[Gethin]

Depends on the state, and your lawyer how much you can and will get. State laws are all different so it is hard to tell about rights in each case. It will also depend on how long you had been married.   It is sad that people put property ahead of human compassion and consideration, but there it is.    Brave friend who wants to get in the middle of a squabbling couple in the middle of a bad divorce. Make sure anything you do is in writing to protect both of you, a rental agreement, for example. If the house is in both your names that will make things much easier.   If you can try to get him to be reasonable it will go a lot faster and smoother. You need to make sure that you have enough money to live on and you need to document the exact reasons why you want a divorce, with specific incidents.    Then go to the lawyer. At all times, you need to appear to be reasonable, not angry or vindictive. Gather your evidence and get out of the marriage with dignity and some decent provisions for your future. You don't mention kids so that is a good thing!   best of luck with it!   wildaboutbooks44 51 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.