My parents want to kick my sister out? help?

[muireach]

My sister is 13. She is not a bad kid. Doesn't do drugs, disobey our parents, gets good grades. We don't have any live relatives and they are literally packing some of her cloths and going to drop her off somewhere with some money. When I asked for a reasoning they said " they can't handle the responsibility" they are pregnant with another baby.

I realize this is abondment and is it against the law? They aren't going through a court system or anything or nputting her in fostor care. Just taking her to a bus station and leaving.

Now, I am 19 and almost 20. I will be moving in with my fiance when we get married in two weeks. Can I legally adopt my sister?

I talked to my fiance and he doesn't. Ind but legal actions can I take so if my parents up and decide they want her back, they can't have her back? I want to legally adopt her. Is there a good chance I could?

My fiance and I have good income and can support her and give her a good education. I don't want her to be dumped on the streets

[bedyw25]

Yes you have a good job and are going to have your own place if you have any evidence of them kicking her out or being mean get all the evidence you can an you can prove them unfit and they will award you custody good luck

[ealahweemah72]

Wow, your parents are horrible. They want to get rid of your sister, but keep the baby!?

Yes you can legally adopt her, but you parents would have to sign papers saying that they give up their parental rights.

[flannagain]

The problem is, to prove them unfit would mean the new baby would get taken away also. You'd have to get CPS involved. You getting to adopt her would be solely up to a judge. Then, faced with charges, your parents would probably lie to CPS so they wouldn't get into trouble. You're starting down a very bumpy road. Make sure you have all your facts and know what your doing.

[freedom97]

The problem is, to prove them unfit would mean the new baby would get taken away also. You'd have to get CPS involved. You getting to adopt her would be solely up to a judge. Then, faced with charges, your parents would probably lie to CPS so they wouldn't get into trouble. You're starting down a very bumpy road. Make sure you have all your facts and know what your doing.

Just ask your parents to sign over rights to her. Then she will be yours. If they don't sign over rights and just drop her off somewhere, make sure that she knows she must call the police immediately. This is definitely illegal. If your sister does not call the cops immediately, then your parents can always say that she ran away and blame everything on her.

[seme22]

Legally your parents can not kick her out. I'm shocked that adults would be so clueless about this. If they kick her out the police will just return her.

No adoption could take place because your parents have to lose legal custody of her. The courts would have to find them as unfit parents meaning their new baby would also be removed from their home. I seriously doubt they would do that.

Most states have legal laws about adoption based on age, income & many other things. At 19 almost 20 & a newly wed would most likely make you ineligible to adopt her. It isn't that easy esp. if they are family.

I have a family friend who adopted her niece & nephew. The whole process took over 2yrs. She is in her 40s as well as her husband. Both a good job, nice home and great income. Yet it still took over 2yrs.

A lot of states require you to be 25 or older. But due to this situation you would have to prove you are a fit parent which will be hard. It would require filing for foster care FIRST. Even if you don't take in foster kids. Foster care requires certain things too such as age usually 25, certain income, back ground checks, physiological testing and a lot more. I don't see you meeting those limits.

Like I said legally your parents can not dump her out on the street. She is their child and they are required by law to care for her. If they don't they lose custody and custody of their soon be new baby.

Also you need to realize you posted this in the adolescent section so much of your answers are from kids (under 18). I strongly suggest you post this in the ADOPTION section where more qualified people can chime in. I'm sure they will tell you the same thing I am telling you.

EDIT - I wish it was as easy as some of the users say. Signing rights over requires legal action which includes proving unfit parents. The courts wouldn't take away one while without looking into the care of another child. Also most courts today have the goal of keeping family together. Your parents would require parenting classes and many other things to help fix the problems most likely starting with family therapy.

The foster care system is full of broken home kids. They do all they can to keep a child with their family. It isn't easy these days to turn over an older child to the system. Some parents have gone to jail for neglect & lose all their children.

By law a parent is required to care for their children.

I have family member who has 3 kids. As stated below my husband & I have looked into taking them into our home. She does not want anything to do with two of her kids & severely neglects her youngest. CPS has visited her a number of times. These kids grandparents my inlaws were in the process of adopting two of their grandkids. You would not believe the red tape they had to go through just to start it. Even though these kids are already well known to CPS & she wanted nothing to do with them. She was ready to sign them over until she heard she was required to take parenting classes and mental health evaluations. Plus my father in law got so sick they are not eligible anymore to adopt the kids.

Do you seriously think the courts would make it easy for a parent to abandon a child? It isn't. If it was these 3 kids would already be in my home and not mentally damaged by all this mess that is going on. My nephew at only 11 has already tried to kill himself because he feels so unloved and neglected. Yet the state still keeps in his messed up fathers care!

Yes, it is easy to sign a child over for adoption after birth but it take a lot of work when they are older.