My sister is 13 years old, and im seeing this guy, whos 17 and his best friend fancies my sister, and he is 17?

by **sceley** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 4:52 am

they have been chatting for a while, my sisters got a boyfriend but she is falling for this other guy, who has NEVER had a girlfriend before and all he wants is sex, he's admitted it, me and this guy have been close in the past and i've only been as far as sucking him off.. i didnt want to go the whole way, and my family who think im innocent, and a virgin don't know about this, and another reason is i'm kinda worried that he's gonna tell my sister about what i've done.. i've read their convos and my sister is like "if we got together my sister would go mad" and his reply "it doesn't matter, if you love me, and i love you then its fine" baring in mind my sister has a boyfriend, i've spoken to my mum about this because i'm looking out for my sister and my mum tells me it's because im jealous, which im not, and my mum is PROUD of my sister maybe dating a 17 year old, at the age of 13!!!!!!!!!
that's like me and my sister being together, which is just completely wrong, a guy MY AGE likes my sister, and me, the quiet sort i am, can't mention the word 'sex' to my parents because i'm shy! :/ so i cant explain why i dont want them being together, and also i find the age totally unacceptable, my sister is not legal! whereas him, he is! I know that if i find out hes done stuff with her, i can take it further and get him done... I've spoken to the guy i like, and another one of his friends about this, and they feel the same way as me, about this situation, they think it is also totally wrong, the age, and the reason.. i just want to get the message across to my mum and dad and my sister, that i dont want anything happening between them, i'm just worried about her, Yeah, im 17 next month, and i'm legal so they can't do anything if they find out i've done stuff with a guy, because it's my choice, but my sister whos 13, i just hope shes not even thought about it yet.. someone please help me, i really need some advice, maybe some personal experiences about age gaps, if you dont want to share things with everyone feel free to email me [email protected]

thanks xx

by **sherborne16** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 4:58 am

Protecting your sister is much more important than any guy or anything else. Tell your father that this 17 years old guy is trying to get your sister to go out with him, and keeps telling her that he loves her. You will not have to say the word sex, because your father will understand when you tell him that this guy is telling her that he loves her. (He was a boy one time as well)Let them handle it. If he says he did anything with you, tell them that he is a liar and they should know you better than that. Tell them he is just saying that because he is mad about you telling what he is doing to your sister. He can't prove it, so don't worry about it.

Pull your father on the side and tell him this, and tell him that you talked to your mother about it, and your mother does not seem to realize that she should be worrying that this guy is trying to seduce your sister.

by **culley96** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:08 am

Protecting your sister is much more important than any guy or anything else. Tell your father that this 17 years old guy is trying to get your sister to go out with him, and keeps telling her that he loves her. You will not have to say the word sex, because your father will understand when you tell him that this guy is telling her that he loves her. (He was a boy one time as well)Let them handle it. If he says he did anything with you, tell them that he is a liar and they should know you better than that. Tell them he is just saying that because he is mad about you telling what he is doing to your sister. He can't prove it, so don't worry about it.

Pull your father on the side and tell him this, and tell him that you talked to your mother about it, and your mother does not seem to realize that she should be worrying that this guy is trying to seduce your sister.

let whatever happens happen.but keep a close eye on things if it goes side ways so then your sister will learn and not feel pushed around by her older sister.the last thing you want to happen is you tell her no and she goes behind your back and gets into trouble even if you think she wont curiosity is very strong more so the younger you are.

by **aethelbert35** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:18 am

you sound like my brothers, your sister 13 the guy 17 four years different. it isn't like she 13 and the guy 27, then that is where I would step in, and if you love your sister, instead of trying to keep her away from "Mr. 17" give her sisterly advice about sex and if she is sexually active, tell her, please used condoms,* Good luck*

by **erwin** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:27 am

You need to voice this to your parents how this guy really is. They need to know the truth, you mom probably thinks it is harmless and that your sister is just having fun. Maybe you can talk to the guy, or have one of your other guy friends who agrees with you talk to him. Maybe the guy friends that agree with you that it's wrong can tease him about wanting to date a little girl, it'll piss him off and embarrass him and maybe then he'll leave her a lone.
He shouldn't be messing with someone when he doesn't have good intentions.

by **amdt57** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:37 am

Get ur bf 2 sort him out thas wat i wud do thas jus wrong or jus get ur bf n his ova m8 2 talk 2 him n tell him that they think its disgustin, he will then av second thoughts about gettin eiv ur sister as he will think people think ges dirty n a peado

by **breasal** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:38 am

Wow, this is a tricky situation. The guy who is 17 and wants to date your 13 year old sister is out of his mind. The first thing you should do is tell your Boyfriend who is the best friend of that guy to tell him back off and not to do this, basically try and convince him this ain't right. Then you should try to tell your sister the same thing, not to do this. If that still does not work you have to sit down with that guy and tell him what your'e doing is sick and illegal. If he his decent enough he would back off but if not then threaten him that you will go to the police (of course your not, matters how far you want to go). If all does not go down, then tell parents about the situation that a 17 year old who is only after sex is going out with your 13 year old sister (This is completely wrong, nevertheless also illegal). Yeah so try this and hope for the best. If I knew this guy I would just knock some sense into him (Ofcourse if talking does not help) but yeah wish you the best and good luck!

P.S You should convince your boyfriend to be more supportive and help you through this situation. He is the guy's best friend at the end of the day.

by **max** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:39 am

Your sister maybe fells flattered that an older guy likes her, I know at 13 I would have. Although for me what I said in a text message and what I would actually do were two completely different things, so don't assume that at your sister will do something. What is the relationship like between you and your sister, I know one of mine I wouldn't dream of having 'the talk' with, where as the other two we are very open and can discuss anything without feeling offended.

As for the guy, if he really did 'love' her like he said then he would be willing to wait until she is of a legal age! I don't think I would trust this guy or trust that he has your sisters best interests at heart, hes thinking with one thing only (and it ain't his brain!!!).

by **eilis** » Sat Jul 07, 2012 5:44 am

Your sister is trying to act way beyond her years, remind the guy that she is only 13 and he could be in trouble if he tries anything with your sister. Also tell your sister that you know what is going on and you will not stand by and see her ruin her life.

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