Question about nikah...?

[torran]

Alsalamalikum


Before you read it, I want only Muslims to answer. Thank you.

I have alot thing to say. Ok, my guy and I want to marry together, but problem is I live in USA and he is in Pakistan. We are both mature, adult. We will meet each other in real later after nikah. I meet the guy two years ago online and I'm still with him. We both are serious about marry together. I meet his family and his parents. His parents know me and I know them. His parents love to have me as their daughter in law. They quickly agree with our marriage. After that, I asked my parents and tell them about guy. They quickly disagree. I keep trying to get my parents agree and none work at all. I told my parents to talk with him for one time and they refused. It just make me very sad. Anyway that short story of what happen.

Today I discussed with my guy about doing our nikah on Skype. My guy ( I normally always called him as my husband because want to think of him as my husband) anyway we want to do nikah because we believe maybe that my parents have to agree with us. What would we do is on his side, his father, two withness and imam will be with him for nikah and on my side, two female withness, one male withness, lawyer and imam be there for nikah. Once when we done with nikah. Then I decided to go tell my parents that we did the nikah so they could allow us be together.

So my question is if we go through all this stuffs for nikah, then will our nikah be vaild? I want our nikah to be vaild.
Also my guy and I decided to do oath paper each month. What we did is that we create oath paper together like we promise with Allaah name in it. We make wallaah promise to each other that we will take each other as husband and wife til to death then after that we both signed it. We did it once a month. None of my or his family know about oath paper we did except guy's sister know it.

Sorry for long detail. I really just need help. I'm worry alot. Thank for ur time. We are serious about it.

[ashly]

Nikah on Skype? Now I have heard it all.

Are you crazzzzzzzy?

[broehain61]

yes you can do nikah but I advise that you get your parents to support you before the nikah.

Has your husband to be, asked for your hand? Has his family made contact with them? And waht is their reason for refusing? Maybe your parents have a valid reason - have you thought about it?

I don't understand what oath paper is. Having Allah name on it does not make the paper any holier nor the marriage.

Nikah takes care of this. Nikah is your complete marriage, with the witnesses and Iman.

EDIT
marriage on skype is allowed.

[modraed]

Your guide has to agree for your marriage if this is your first time getting married.
You cannot get married if your "walee" does not accept.
It will be Invalid please do not proceed.
Pray to God and be Patient.
Best of Luck!

[banys]

Alaykum Salam wrt ... I have read your explanation and i have great admiration of your responsibility to Islam, your parents, your husband and his parents. i am not an islamic scholar so my answer is not binding.
The main pre-requisite for Nikah is that both the man and woman must be adults, independant and of sound mind. There are 2 types of Nikah. Nikah Daim and Nikah Mutaah. In both Nikah it is the woman who will give her hand to the man. Since you are an adult and independant so you qualify for both Nikah.
i am not sure about executing Nikah Daim on Skype. But in Nikah Mutaah you can on Skype with the condition that you elect someone else on your husband side to be your representative. You dont need anyone else except yourself, your representative on the other side and your husband. Then you offer Nikah Mutaah to your husband through your representative.
When you will meet your husband then you will carry-out Nikah Daim. Again as you qualify you dont need anyone else but only your representative. In Islam a qualified woman does not need even her parents consent if the man she is to marry is a good muslim.
Please check out with the islamic scholar about Nikah Daim on Skype. If it is permissible then you can proceed with your plan. i wish you safety and happiness.
Jazakallah khair...