Question regarding bridal shower invites?

by **torin7** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 10:52 am

My mother in law (to be) is throwing US a bridal shower in May. However, my side of the family live in New York City while the party will be held in New Jersey. I hope that most of my side of the family can attend even though the location is hard to get to via public transportation (most of them don't drive). Am I the one who should invite them since she doesn't have their contact info? How would this work? Also, how much in advance should the invitations go out?

by **favian** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 10:55 am

Well, my soon to be inlaws all live in NY as well (we live in Michigan), I am having 2 parties, so you could look into that (most of his family does not drive either). If you have them all at once though, give her the contact info. On their invites, if you want, you can put to RSVP to you, since most of them will probably feel more comfortable calling you than someone they don't know. As far as how far in advance, I would say a month or so. But, since they need to arrange transportation, I would say at least 2 months. Good luck!

by **vanaken25** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 10:59 am

I would actually suggest talking to your MIL to be about this issue. It would be a great way for the two of you to bond and show that your as interested in her concerns and gives her a chance to be interested in yours. Also, it allows the two of you to trouble shoot and solve a problem together :)

Just my 2 cents...

by **modraed** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 11:01 am

you should give her all the addresses of the people you would like to be invited to the shower so she can send them the invite...

and the invites should probably go out a month in advance to give people time to rsvp and set up any transportation they need to.

by **gowan** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 11:12 am

You should give the hostess (your MIL-to be) the contact info of all the people you'd like her to invite. The invitation should come from her, not you, since she's the person hosting the party.

by **orson19** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 11:16 am

You could give your mother-in-law their information and she can do the invites.

And the invites should go out 4-6 weeks before the event.

by **morcan** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 11:17 am

you can't invite anyone to your own bridal shower. whoever is hosting it will do the inviting. if your future MIL hasn't asked you for a list of addresses for your side of the family, it means she doesn't intend to invite them. the # of guests is up to her since she's the one paying for the shindig. you can gently ask her if she needs any contact info for your friends and guests on your side of the family, but be prepared that she may tell you she's not inviting them. it's really her perogative and you'll have to hope someone on your side or your bridesmaids will throw you another shower to include anyone your MIL leaves out. she'll be sending the invitations out 1 mo before the shower most likely, and the shower is probably 2-3 mos before the wedding.

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