Should I divorce my husband?

[adelphos]

My husband is in another country working with a good salary.He's very honest to me.He didn't cheat on me ever.He let me knows everything.I have nothing against him about honesty.
My problem with him is that, he never stood up for us, me and our 2 daughters, with my in-laws.He always follow what his father wants.
After giving birth with our first baby, I went home in our province.We lived in the same province but in different town.I left him in the city to review for the board exam...During vacation, he just went home straight in their town without even bothering to visit his baby and me first.
He was just afraid that his father would be angry with him...
I think his father is immature too.
Then I gave birth to our second child, he's not even there.He told me that they have to finish a project in their office that I thought that he would never come...Not until his office mate told him to go home for I am giving birth to our daughter.He never shows that he's excited about it like other father do.
And now, he worked abroad for our family to have a wonderful future.To buy our own property, good education for our children and get ready for our future...Here comes his aunt, his aunt is now the wife of his father after his mother died, asks for money...It's okay for me then, but then again the next month asks again....I don't know why they keep on asking money.They have no one to support but themselves.They have no children, for my husband is the youngest.They both work as a teacher, good income for his father has a 10 hectar farm...
My husband just give the money to them without even bothering asking me....I'm thinking of divorcing him because we never comes first to him, his family, but his work and my in-laws does...Once in my life, I never felt importance from him...I'm unhappy with him...I'm tired of crying every night when I think of what he' doing to me....Should I divorce him?I'm just afraid that being a single mom is hard.please help.
Thank you. I will appreciate all the answers and advice..

[honi]

My husband is in another country working with a good salary.He's very honest to me.He didn't cheat on me ever.He let me knows everything.I have nothing against him about honesty.
My problem with him is that, he never stood up for us, me and our 2 daughters, with my in-laws.He always follow what his father wants.
After giving birth with our first baby, I went home in our province.We lived in the same province but in different town.I left him in the city to review for the board exam...During vacation, he just went home straight in their town without even bothering to visit his baby and me first.
He was just afraid that his father would be angry with him...
I think his father is immature too.
Then I gave birth to our second child, he's not even there.He told me that they have to finish a project in their office that I thought that he would never come...Not until his office mate told him to go home for I am giving birth to our daughter.He never shows that he's excited about it like other father do.
And now, he worked abroad for our family to have a wonderful future.To buy our own property, good education for our children and get ready for our future...Here comes his aunt, his aunt is now the wife of his father after his mother died, asks for money...It's okay for me then, but then again the next month asks again....I don't know why they keep on asking money.They have no one to support but themselves.They have no children, for my husband is the youngest.They both work as a teacher, good income for his father has a 10 hectar farm...
My husband just give the money to them without even bothering asking me....I'm thinking of divorcing him because we never comes first to him, his family, but his work and my in-laws does...Once in my life, I never felt importance from him...I'm unhappy with him...I'm tired of crying every night when I think of what he' doing to me....Should I divorce him?I'm just afraid that being a single mom is hard.please help.
Thank you. I will appreciate all the answers and advice..

I would send him this question and see what he says.Your wife and kids should always come first.

[sebastiano53]

You need the have a budget that will restrict his spending. This is a common failure in a marriage. You both have a right to know where the money goes. Check out my "source" to find a budget.

[shadrach]

It sounds like he's been an okay husband and a horrible father...both you and your children deserve the attention you desire. My mom did not divorce my dad because of the same reasons and it made everyone of us miserable. You should talk it over with your husband, tell him how you feel and give him the ultimatum. Don't spring it on him, he might not even realize how you feel, if things dont change then take action. Do what's best for you and especially for your children.

[dana]

No dont get a divorce just yet. What you have to do is send them a card that says in a nice way that they should stop asking for loans / money and that your husband feels bad to tell them no. Make a copy of it so that if it gets twisted and back fires on you then you can show how nice you were about it and that you sugar coated it as best you could. Behind every successful man is a successful woman and dont you ever doubt it. I would rather disappoint a relative than lose a wife and 2 kids. I'll go to the wife everytime.
He might be the man in charge but your the one that knows whats going on. Have you ever notice how older couples become "anti-social" ? They do it to protect their assets. If my idea is all wrong and it back fires on youat leastt every one in the family will know where you stand including your husband.
After all you do have a genuine interest in your family and Im sure your cutting out coupons and saving the money which is your job. His family has their show to run and so do you.
" Hell hath no mercy than the scorn of a woman ".

[iomar]

yes