Should I Or Shouldn't I? Would You Send A Gift To Sister In Law When You Did Not Show For The Wedding?

[Coltrane]

I agree with Spatzie; send a gift! However, if you think she is upset with you, maybe for not being in the wedding, you might also try talking with her, by phone or in a letter, that is separate from the birthday gift. Let her know that you like her, and value her friendship, and are waiting for the rest of the stuff to fizzle out, which it will eventually do. Nice that you are willing to keep trying, too!Katherine

[Dagon]

Be the bigger person. She will respect you for it. I have a sister in law who has often been a real bitch in family matters. I purposely go up to her and give her a HUGE hug whenever I see her. I can feel her guilt and anxiety as I'm hugging her. Some people just need love to make them better and sometimes we need to set our pride aside. It works for me.