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[caomh]

hi there! yes, that's true, there may be some bullies who fake it and claim the seat is theirs although you cam before they did... i find it hard to not give in, especially because the person trying to claim my seat might start some argument. but i find it harder to swallow when your own friends do it to you. why don't they try to share the seat that they've been hogging for hours, right? i hope this doesn't happen to me in other places. it's a really sticky situation! lol

[osmont]

For me the only time to claim a seat as your's in in a restreruant. No one should lay claim to any seat in church or buses and park benches. The only time I think you should lay claim to a seat in church is if you have to get up to go to the restroom. Then you should be able to claim the seat by leaving your coat on it. I don't believe I would try to claim a park bench even if having to leave it temperately since it is public property.

[patwin87]

hi, deebomb! yes, that makes sense. people shouldn't assume a seat is theirs simply because their bum touched it, hehehe. how would you react if this happened to you? would you give in? do you stay?

[pascoe69]

I really don't know. but I think I would just move over if the seat beside me was empty. A seat isn't worth fighting for.

[erwin]

I have actually seen this at church. I let them sit there and pray that the Lord show them that there are more important things in life and that the days message touch there hearts and help them and me both. Basically there are no personal seats in a public place. But when it comes to church I do not want to do something that would make the other person stumble so if they feel that they need that particular chair to worship God then I let them have it. I know that it does not matter where I sit, He will hear me.

[pete]

that's true. actually, this happened to me at a friend's house. we were lounging and hanging out. there were a lot of us but very few seats. one of my friends got up and left. she was gone for 15 minutes so i took her seat. she came back later and said, "that's my seat." i got up because i didn't want trouble. but that situation got me thinking... till when will that seat be hers? 15 minutes? 30 minutes? the entire day? during what social scenarios (other than dining in a restaurant) is saving a seat alright, and for how many minutes or hours do you have the right to save it? i'm beginning to wonder what the fair thing is when it comes to having seats reserved...

[eilis]

Hello sandragellar, In church I wouldn't consider that his seat if there was no jacket there to save his seat. I have seen that a lot in church though. I would probably just let him have the seat so there is no problem in church. Unless there is some kind of arranged seating to where someone paid to have that place of sitting then it would be his seat but if it is just normal seating then it wouldn't be his seat. I hope that this person realises someday that a place of sitting just isn't that important. Take care and have a good day.

[smid]

that's true, if this thing happens in church, i wouldn't mind. how about if it happens when you're in a friend's house? if another friend was using a seat but got up and was gone for 15 minutes, is it still her seat? for how many minutes is a seat "reservable"? a lot of my friends have the habit of saving seats whenever we go to someone's house. i often end up standing. and if i sit down where somebody used to be and that person comes back after an hour, it's still "his seat." i'm beginning to wonder what's fair... take care, too. :)

[mohammed47]

Actually a resturant and chruch are two diffrent things even in an resturant someone sits on someones else seat with the table without no reservations card then it is ok, but we ant fight with someone for a seat in chruch nor we can argue over it, so i think its good to give them the seat. remaining thing if the seat is about bus and train then i imagine if you have that much to start fighting there, hehehehe then you can but actually its the travellers rules that the seats are theirs :)

[darik2]

haha yes, in a bus or train you may have to fight for your seat. hehe in a church, you're right, it's rather awkward to fight for a seat. it's very "unchurchly" (forgive me for coining a weird word).