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[rushford79]

years ago, my parents said kids are different. now, i'm also starting to think that kids are different... i'm wondering how it seems to get gets worse and worse every generation without it getting too bad. lol ^_^ could it be that my parents were right, that kids are somehow different nowadays compared to kids 4 decades ago? i'm starting to wonder what went wrong...

[napayshni65]

Hi sandra and welcome to mylot... I was actually in a synagogue and someone said that to me! I was with a group and we explained we had no idea we were taking up someone else's seats but they didn't care. So we moved after apologizing again and had a nice story to tell when we rejoined our larger group. I guess it takes all kinds of people in the world. But certainly I have never said that to anyone unless I'm on a flight and there are specific assigned seats.

[bearchan]

Hi sandra and welcome to mylot... I was actually in a synagogue and someone said that to me! I was with a group and we explained we had no idea we were taking up someone else's seats but they didn't care. So we moved after apologizing again and had a nice story to tell when we rejoined our larger group. I guess it takes all kinds of people in the world. But certainly I have never said that to anyone unless I'm on a flight and there are specific assigned seats.

oh, it feels weird to have someone say that to you ina synagogue, doesn't it? in a place where you are supposed to feel the presence of the almighty, it's rather ironic to have someone shoo you from your seat! ^_^ hope it doesn't happen again to you... ^_^

[devdutta58]

Hi sandra and welcome to mylot... I was actually in a synagogue and someone said that to me! I was with a group and we explained we had no idea we were taking up someone else's seats but they didn't care. So we moved after apologizing again and had a nice story to tell when we rejoined our larger group. I guess it takes all kinds of people in the world. But certainly I have never said that to anyone unless I'm on a flight and there are specific assigned seats.

oh, it feels weird to have someone say that to you ina synagogue, doesn't it? in a place where you are supposed to feel the presence of the almighty, it's rather ironic to have someone shoo you from your seat! ^_^ hope it doesn't happen again to you... ^_^

It was weird that we would be shooed away. But it was during the service so we didn't want to cause a scene - we just found new seats and hoped we weren't in someone else's seat again!

[gedalyahu]

imagine yourself in a church. you take your seat, then a person approaches you and says, "that's my seat." do you leave and give way? in a restaurant, perhaps it's a rule that once you took a table and ordered, it's "your seat." how about in other public places? like churches, park benches, etc? when exactly is a seat somebody else's? if a person leaves a public seat (like in a church) then comes back after 1 minute, is that seat still "his seat"? when is it okay to claim a seat as yours? although this problem seems trivial, i have found myself in this situation so many times and i have begun to wonder when it is ctually alright to claim a public seat as yours. it seems our etiquette books don't have a steadfast rule on seating arrangements. haha. so perhaps you can help me out instead?

[denzell]

it's a public seat anyway...why do some people claim it be the their own..it's not private..the don't pay for that inorder to seat..if someone complaining i will gonna explain to him regarding the proper manners.. like if someone leave his/her place without telling to anybody that she'll/he'll come back and want to occupy the space again then this people don't have the right to let you vacate the space..that is something rude and they know nothing about the proper etiquette.

[tanishia]

How rude! Unless say someone is in a seat next to the so-called "taken seat" and that person is minding it for the person say if they had gone to the bathroom or something, or if there is an actually sign saying the seat is reserved for a certain person, I can't see how that seat is "theirs"

[plys]

i can't see it, either. ^_^ unfortunately, there are just some people in the world who think the seat is theirs until they say it no longer is. tsk, tsk... if i had to leave my seat but i didn't put anything on it to signify that it was mine, i would understand if someone assumed it was a free seat. i wouldn't say hey, it's my seat, especially when i'm in a church.