When to give up on your ex boyfriend?

[porter]

We dated almost a year.We didnt fight.For the most part up until the last few weeks we were happy.I originally broke up with him because i felt lately he was putting me on the back burner because he thought i'd never leave.but i did break up with him not because i wanted to.a few days later we talked and said we wouldnt end it and would work through it (both crying in his truck together for a good hour), and surprise later that night he texts me its best we end it.I feel like his new friends had a major part in his decision doing so. so i gave him space for 2 weeks then talked to him and decided he couldnt be in a relationship and that we would be friends.This lasted a little while until i decided i couldnt just be his friend, so i cut all ties with him.Then i get unexpected text messages from him like,"i know at this point it may not mean much,but i want you to know i miss you." and we also have a psych class together which i stopped going to so i didnt have to see him, so he texted me asking me to please come to class.I know lately he's spending time alone and not with his friends which is rare because he was with them everyday once we broke up.We've been broken up for about 2 months. His actions are confusing.should i give up on him or not close any doors?

[ealahweemah72]

now is a excellent time.

[lundie]

In the end whatever happens know this that you are a fool to have ended something you didn't want to end. You should have communicated with him, not break up like a child to show him how serious you were.

We live and learn, but it might be good for you to move on and explore other options anyhow. Also know this that it is pretty common for relationships to mellow out after awhile. The initial fizzle can only last so long, but it is up to both of you to jump start it again. Ending things as you found out doesn't jump start anything.

You give up on an "ex boyfriend" when he becomes your "ex".

[dalon]

i think you have to ask yourself one question before you think of giving up on him or not and tht is do you love him? search your feelings and try your hardest not to way out the pos/neg b/c that doesn't work. your reasons for letting him go based on your question was really immature to be honest, you should of talked with him first.."but i did break up with him not b/c i wanted too" does not make any sense for you to dip out of a relationship. i feel you still care and feel responsible for what you did to this guy b/c your on yahoo answers lol. if you were bored/or he cheated on you/or their wasnt any spark nemore..then you have to the right to talk to him about it before deciding to quit on him. the only reason he is acting weird around you is b/c he prob wants you back. if you dont love him nemore and he hasnt done nething wrong then maybe its best if you remain friends. hope this helped.

[devon]

Wow you're in such a difficult situation so I hope things get better for you.

It's my opinion, from a little experience and talking with friends etc., that once a relationship ends then that's it over for good.

The exception to this is if you "break up" during a fight and then a couple of hours later make up again. Personally I think that a break up of any longer than 24 hours should be a permanent break up.

It can be really hard letting go of an ex, especially if you didn't really want to let him go in the first place (trust me, I've experienced a different situation but I understand this part completely).

But, and here I've only heard stuff not experienced it, it can be even worse to have an on-again off-again relationship.

Personally, although it's harder in the short term, I believe that long term it might be best that you give up on the relationship.

However, don't give up on him. (I have experience again here.) You need to remember that he needs to adjust to being without you as well and that might not be easy. Also remember that you'll both deal with the situation in different ways. I would suggest don't text him more than once a week, but try to reply whenever he texts you. This way you can maybe still be friends, but you won't look (no offense) really desperate.