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[chazaiah]

to have a infant?" Or make statements like, "you are not receiving any younger." Why on earth do girls ask such individual inquiries? What is an appropriate response if you are offended by the personal invasion of hte query? Does this irritate any person else?

[Chadd]

My family is really open about personal matters, if not asked in a "prying" sort of way. I have had knowledge with these sort of folks - they are control freaks, and they get their jollies out of "exposing" traits or circumstances that they have deemed "not typical." When in the enlisted military neighborhood, I was asked by one particular of the other wives, "So....when are you and your husband going to have a child?" I replied: "Never. Why did you really feel that you had to have one particular?" That shut her up truly quick. It is also successful to shoot back " So - at what point in time did you choose that my possessing a baby was your organization?" One more great one particular is " Studies show that educated folks have less youngsters than noneducated ones. Considering that you have 4, I guess you don't mind if I jump to a conclusion, do you? I mean, because my fertility is in question here..." I do not know if any of these responses are proper, depending on what your definition of proper is. I am quite honest, straightforward, and, effectively...blunt. It appears to get the point across. And the ideal thing about becoming that way is that it gets around the community swiftly that you are a private particular person and will respond negatively to this sort of questioning - so you will uncover, as days, weeks, months, go by, that individuals will steadily quit asking you those kinds of questions. A polite " I really feel that query is inappropriate." works just fine. An additional point to think of, is the folks that ask these concerns: what are they missing in their life that they have to ask you prying concerns? Are they attempting to reside your life vicariously? Are they attempting to convince you of something or steer you in the "proper" direction? Are they housewives with absolutely nothing better to do than meddle in your enterprise? Yet another question I have identified inappropriate is "Are you a Christian?" I often answer " No, and I never see how that is any of your enterprise." Occasionally, getting blunt gets your message across far better than becoming polite. They may possibly see you as impolite, but WHO CARES WHAT OTHER Men and women Consider ABOUT YOU? A final thought: Girls are not the only ones who ask these concerns.

[Griffen]

These questions aren't so much to offend you yourself. But to make other women feel better. Women tend to have a bad habit of putting other women down to make themselves feel better. We've learned this through High school and sometimes even college that women are very irritating. Most girls also like to brag about what they've done, or that they've had a baby, and want to know when you will have one too to make you feel like you're missing out on something. It happens, the best thing to do is grit your teeth, smile, and say "Yeah, I guess so." Or "When I'm ready." Myself... I'd tell them to shove it. But I'm a women who puts up with things as such.

[Rigby]

Because they don't think and don't use their manners I experienced that a lot when I was pregnant(and when I wasn't and someone asked me if I was)   I try to stay as polite as possible but make sure that I make it known that it is inappropriate because they really should know.   Someone told me when I was pregnant that they had never seen a person get that big(I was tiny skinny and only in my belly did it show but she was right I did look big in the tummy when pregnant).  I think I said..."Gee, that was impolite, why would you say something like that?"  (If I didn't use my manners I would have said to look in the mirror because ironically this person was quite heavy and had not ever had a baby and was much larger than me)   I've also just not answered those questions at all and instead asked, "What would make you ask that?"  If you say directly that it is rude, they get defensive and can't understand that it is inappropriate but if you ask they realize it themselves.          SOTWord 76 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.