Why Does My Daughter-in-law Keep My Son Away From Me?

[Gavriel]

should know how you feel; perhaps he can have some influence over her behavior. I think at the very least, that would open the door to having a direct conversation with her.  Ask her why she is being so cold when you have been warm and welcoming.  Also, with the impending grandchild, you would like to be part of its life because you are family.    When they were dating, did you convey at any time that you were not pleased with his selection?  Were there any harsh feelings between the two of you?  The mother/son dance at the reception was important to you.  Why didn?t you discuss it with your son?  It seems to me, his passivity is part of the problem. I have always found that getting feelings out on the table either changes things for the better or lets you know where you stand and why.  Don?t suffer in silence; find out what?s going on.  

[Mulcahy]

Don't do invites via email. Talk to your son! Stop by with fresh fruit salad for a quick HI.. Don't expect to be invited in, just do a "good deed"Too often, families are too busy and email invites don't always get treated with the respect of a phone call. PLUS you can hear the tone of the person doing the inviting, and accepting/declining....Hard as it could be, let the past go, Reach out, speak! Good Luck!