Why Does My Daughter-in-law Keep My Son Away From Me?

by **Waer** » Fri May 23, 2014 2:46 pm

I knew it was going to be a difficult relationship because when they married two years ago, the wedding invitation did not have my name on it. Instead of putting "together with our parents", my daughter-in-law individually named her mom, her dad and her dad's new wife leaving my name completely out. She said there was no room for my name. She also said that the mother/son dance at the reception was not important. I have never had a problem with my email account until she says she doesn't get my dinner invitations I had sent them. She withholds my sons emails from him and on the rare occasion that she does come over, she can't seem to get out of here fast enough. They readily spend lots of time with her family and even rub that in my face. She acts so sweet & innocent, but she is manipulative. They are expecting a child and I am just heartbroken at the thought of not being able to see my grandchild. Why is she being so cold when I have done nothing but be warm & welcoming?

by **Clovis** » Sun May 25, 2014 3:26 am

Skippy? said: 2 Don't do invites via email. Talk to your son! Stop by with fresh fruit salad for a quick HI.. Don't expect to be invited in, just do a "good deed"Too often, families are too busy and email invites don't always get treated with the respect of a phone call. PLUS you can hear the tone of the person doing the inviting, and accepting/declining....Hard as it could be, let the past go, Reach out, speak! Good Luck! 61 months ago

by **Aviah** » Sun May 25, 2014 11:46 pm

no_sparkle said: 4 Hi, thanks for your reply. I do have an "appointment" with my son to discuss this. I feel like my daughter-in-law really set "my place" in their life when she omitted my name on their wedding invitation. I have been quiet for so long and it is really upsetting me; I know it needs to be handled very delicately. I was so excited when I learned of their engagement and really looked forward to having another "daughter" - but what happened was I lost a son instead. 61 months ago

by **Coby** » Mon May 26, 2014 5:20 am

Hi, thanks for your reply. I do have an "appointment" with my son to discuss this. I feel like my daughter-in-law really set "my place" in their life when she omitted my name on their wedding invitation. I have been quiet for so long and it is really upsetting me; I know it needs to be handled very delicately. I was so excited when I learned of their engagement and really looked forward to having another "daughter" - but what happened was I lost a son instead.

by **Domingo** » Mon May 26, 2014 7:31 pm

turkermom said: 3 Call him at work to set up a visit. 61 months ago

by **Payden** » Sat May 31, 2014 8:42 pm

Call him at work to set up a visit.

by **waylon** » Mon Jun 02, 2014 5:57 am

I would sit down with your son and have a frank conversation with him. Either he is naive or henpecked. Either way, he should know how you feel; perhaps he can have some influence over her behavior. I think at the very least, that would open the door to having a direct conversation with her. Ask her why she is being so cold when you have been warm and welcoming. Also, with the impending grandchild, you would like to be part of its life because you are family. When they were dating, did you convey at any time that you were not pleased with his selection? Were there any harsh feelings between the two of you? The mother/son dance at the reception was important to you. Why didn?t you discuss it with your son? It seems to me, his passivity is part of the problem. I have always found that getting feelings out on the table either changes things for the better or lets you know where you stand and why. Don?t suffer in silence; find out what?s going on. MaryAnn 61 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

by **Levey** » Wed Jun 04, 2014 9:25 pm

You need to talk to your son or you could talk to them both together and find out what is going on. It is not fair to you or the grandchild.

by **herald** » Wed Jun 04, 2014 11:35 pm

triplea said: 1 You need to talk to your son or you could talk to them both together and find out what is going on. It is not fair to you or the grandchild. 61 months ago

by **Gavriel** » Thu Jun 05, 2014 9:16 pm

should know how you feel; perhaps he can have some influence over her behavior. I think at the very least, that would open the door to having a direct conversation with her. Ask her why she is being so cold when you have been warm and welcoming. Also, with the impending grandchild, you would like to be part of its life because you are family. When they were dating, did you convey at any time that you were not pleased with his selection? Were there any harsh feelings between the two of you? The mother/son dance at the reception was important to you. Why didn?t you discuss it with your son? It seems to me, his passivity is part of the problem. I have always found that getting feelings out on the table either changes things for the better or lets you know where you stand and why. Don?t suffer in silence; find out what?s going on.

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