Why is he doing this to me?

[bing49]

Get a lawyer. He maybe able to do something with the fact that he abandoned the kids and didn't visit when he was supposed to. If there is a legit reason the court can let you go too. Is he paying support? Maybe you can make a deal on that if he lets you go.

[devon]

It will always be greener on the other side of the fence for your ex. When he is with you he will want someone else and when he is with someone else than he might want you and the kids. He will never be totally happy with whoever he is with. He also likes to control the women in his life. No doubt when he lost custody of his children he was very angry and took that anger out on the children but refusing to see them. Now he is calmer he wants to control his children as well, as they probably think he wonderful and can do no wrong. He needs to control people around him and he can do that by telling you he loves you.

[motega]

Don't let him play you. You deserve better and will get better, you just have to know it. It is someone for everybody, next time take a lot more time to get to know him. Peace.

[victorio83]

First off, I am very sorry to hear about this.

Just maintaining a relationship is hard enough, and to think divorce with the ex wife involved. My god! Sounds like you handled that one a lot better than I would have! Props to you!

Anyway If I were you I would try to remain civil like you are currently doing..or trying to do.

But dont get caught up on what he said, he obviously has some kind of charm to him.

Getting caught up in it would just be a huge time waster.

You have much more important things to worry about, such as yourself and your children.

I would definitely look into the child support thing as mentioned above, if he doesnt pay he doesnt have a say perhaps.

Also, you deserve the very best! Do not let a man control you!

Just remember the good times and forget the bad! Thinking of the bad past times can really get you down.

So you had a good past with him as your husband, and he ruined it. His mistake.

Things happen for a reason, think of all the things you learned just because of the fact.

It will look up! I promise! Just forget him and his stupid ways

He is not worth it! And obviously his old/new wife didnt learn much the first time.

He will leave her. You just wait and watch.
Guys like him dont take marriage seriously.

Im sorry you fell in his trap, how would you have known?
Love is blind as they say!

Just be glad you are no longer tied to him other than your girls!

I wish you the very best! Good Luck!

[denys]

Don't confuse "I still love you", with, "I wanna get back together". You need to change your relationship with this man, as it has already changed. One of the hardest things to do is to be civil with someone who hurt you. But for the kids, that is what you must do.