Why should my brother's wife apply sindhoor for my wife? I walked out for my wife's dignity. Am I traitor?

[augustus]

Hi
I and my twin brother got married on the same day.

He is older by a couple of minutes.

But my family treats his wife as the senior daughter in law and hence superior in hierarchy to my wife.
It humiliates me when i see that my wife has to touch my sister in law's feet and take her blessings in addition to my mom's on every festival.

My brother's wife assumes the role of her Guru on these functions and my wife has to take the sindoor (vermilon on the parting of hair) from my SIL as blessing after she kneels down.

Both are of equal age.

My heart is bleeding to see my wife being treated like this, especially beingng submissive to her age mate girl. My brother's wife literally orders my wife around, taking advantage of the so called seniority.

I never expected this from my family. But my voice is never heard.

Now my wife has to console me when I cry hugging her, literally heart torn when i see her touching a girl's feet her age.

I feel guilty that because of me only she is in this state of life.

She also feels hurt and humiliated in heart but she never tells me....... because I will feel more hurt.....

I love my wife more than my life...... But this has only strengthened our love. We know, only I am there for her and only she is there for me.

I took the decision of breaking off from my home and taking my wife to a separate home, away from my brother and his wife.

My wife feels happy on one hand and feels guilty on the other hand.....

I clearly told them, I cannot let my wife be physically or emotionally taken advantage of by anyone.

People are now calling me a traitor and my wife a home breaker.

I don't know what to do.

[deangelo51]

Demi Lovato.

[tahmelapachme33]

You've done the right thing.

This is the 21st century. People don't let their siblings or their parents or their in-laws run their lives any more.

You and your wife have your own lives. If other people are going to be such barbaric ignorant a*seholes, then they can go and f*ck themselves.

[thom]

Live your life with her and be happy.