Would you be pissed about this?

[colum]

I dated this guy for a year (16-17) and we are now 23. We broke up because he cheated on me. When he was 19 he joined the army and we wrote each other letters and became friendly again, I was dating someone at the time, which he knew and was fine with. About a two years ago he was injured in war and is in a wheelchair now.

About 3 months he came up to me, we've been friendly since we were 19, and told me he was sexually frustrated and really wanted to have sex with me like old times. I agreed (I'll always have feelings for him, I'm not in love with him like I used to be). Anyway, we had sex a couple times and he reassured me he could not get me pregnant because of his spinal cord injury, well guess who's pregnant? Me.

I told him and he more or less came clean and told me he knew he could get me pregnant and it was his hope all along because he doesn't think any woman will ever love him because of his impairment. I'm really pissed he used me like that. Do you think I have a right to be pissed? He keeps telling me I'm being overly dramatic.

I did google it before we had sex and it said some can't produce sperm and some cannot, so I believed him.

[jabin20]

He's rationalizing his wrong, dear, that's all. What he did was HORRIBLE, AWFUL, cruel, selfish and immature.

Of course you should be more than pissed because this affects every single aspect of your entire life!!! A guy can say it's no big deal to get prego, he's not going to carry the kid for 9 months!!!! His body isn't going to be changed forever, gain 40 lbs or more, then have to try and lose the weight after the baby is born.

Refuse all his texts and calls and visits. SHOW him how pissed you are!!! I wouldn't talk to him until the baby is born. And file for full custody and child support the day after you deliver the baby, that he'll have to pay for the next 18 years!!! Also, you can think about adoption.

[jan46]

I'd probably be upset, yeah!! But the one you need to be uspset with is yourself. 1st of all because you believed that bullshit and 2nd because you f***ed him without being in a true relationship.

Now go find yourself a good lawyer and make sure he supports the baby you're going to have together. He's getting money from the government. He can use some of it for child support.

[iomar]

You should know by now that guys will tell you anything to get their way. You should be angrier at yourself for being so naive. If his 'equipment' is still fully functional, then why wouldn't he be producing sperm? You had a say in the matter, it's not like he forced you to do what he wanted.