(10 points!!)WHAT DO I DO ABOUT THIS GIRL?

by **wethrby** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:16 am

OK so im 16 and im sort of in an unofficial relationship with a 14 year old girl that goes to my church. Were waiting till we finish school to focus.more on our relationship.we do kissing, holding hands, i met her family and we spend weekends with each other. However about a month ago, this girl that knows her has started talking to me. I never liked this other girl and i dont reslly find her attractive. When we first chatted on facebook she said iwas cute and then said she was said i was the other girl's boo. However literly ten minutes agp things got worse. I uploaded a vid of me shooting a.basketball and she messaged me saying if i uploaded it from my new phone. I said yea since it was pretty obvious. Then she asked me for my number. I REALLY DIDNT WANT TO GIVE HER.MY NUMBER but then i didnt.know how to say no so i gave it to her. She just started texting me and asked me for a pic so she can save in her.phone. i said i didnt take any and she could just go to my facebook profile to see my pics. If i had the choice to erase her from my life in a split second i would. I really like the.other girl and want to focus on just her because she is the best girl ever. The other girl knows i like the girl i spend time with. She hasnt flirted with me since but.she subtly planting the roots of her.into my life and i just want to be left alone. Also the girl i like told me.that this girl is in 7th grade. Im going to be a junior in high school so im sure her parents wouldnt be ok with it, its against.the.law, and i dont.have an interest for middle school girls.

by **barend31** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:23 am

it seems like a middle school girl crush. You need to make it obvious that you don't like her in order for her to get over you, just don't hurt her too badly, girls at that age have very tender emotions and it could effect her quite badly if you do this wrong.
The first thing that I would do if I were you, would be to tell your girlfriend about this younger girl, just to make sure that that the younger girl can't go causing trouble between you two.
Whenever you talk to the younger girl, bring up your girlfriend in conversation, saying how you think shes so great and all that, the younger girl will soon get the picture that you will only ever like your girlfriend and give up.
Another way would be to stop replying to her texts, she will give up soonb enough. Good luck

by **piaras91** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:24 am

If you don't tell this other girl whats up she'll think you like her back, and then when it all unfolds that you don't like her she will claim you played her and you are an ******. i know how girls are since i am one, best bet is to just straight up say "i'm not interested". Best of luck.

by **therron57** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:27 am

Just tell her straight out that you enjoy her company but you don't like her THAT way; you have this amazing girl by your side and you are really interested in her. Kind of nicely tell her to f*ck off aha

by **achban** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:31 am

Tell her that you have no interest in her what so ever. Your going to need to be blatantly honest with these kind of girls. Tell her that you really want to be with the other girl and your not about to jeopardize that.

by **wilbart** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:41 am

Just tell her you only see her as a friend you have a girlfriend and she is too young if she don't get the message by then change your number and avoid her :)

by **darvell** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:43 am

Just tell her you only see her as a friend you have a girlfriend and she is too young if she don't get the message by then change your number and avoid her :)

How about changing your number?

by **eliot** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:48 am

so.... tell her that you don't want her to bother you because you love this other girl!
simple!

by **chason58** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:54 am

Hey Dante, I'm assuming that's your name...

I'm 19, so not too much older than you, but something that I have learned recently (and you need to learn this too) is that we are not obligated to ANYONE. You are 16 years old--almost an adult. If you don't want to talk to this girl, just quit texting her. Most phones have an option in the settings where you can block calls, and if she texts you do NOT reply. If you're friends with her facebook, delete her. It won't be the end of her world or yours. Eventually she'll get the hint and you'll be able to move on with your life without this burden.

First and foremost though, make sure your girlfriend knows what is going on, and the steps you are taking to eliminate this problem from your lives. I'm sure she'll appreciate your honesty, and it'll probably make her feel pretty darn special knowing she's the "only girl for you". :)

For a VERY long time I felt as if I owed something to people that I did not really know or care about, but thankfully I've finally realized that I don't have to spend time "dealing" with people I don't really like when I could using that time for people that I actually do care about. It's the most freeing feeling ever.

Good luck!

by **lifton** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:55 am

tell the girl straight up you don't want anything to do with you. by allowing her to continue talking to you you are giving her a message that how she is acting it is okay. and if this girl is the girl you like's friend tell the girl you like what is going on if she doesn't know. so she knows who her real friends are. a true friend wouldn't do that to another friend. also if the girl continues to try to contact you after you have told her to stop. tell someone like your parents or hers. ( i know its "tattle-telling") but it would deff insure it from continuing

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