Disobeying his mothers word's are we doing the wrong this by loving each other.?

[aenedleah10]

My mother in law and the love of my life.

Hello.
I'm a nineteen year old female I come from an Islamic background Mother being shai, father being suni and from the city of Kabul Afghanistan. I have been in a relationship for over two years and six months.
On Feb 25 2O11, I got engaged to not only my best friend but to the love of my life.
To be honest with you I can never come near to seeing my self being with any one ells due to the amount of love, reaspect I have towards this one person and how much I care for him.

As the days went by so did the Invasion to our privacy by our families.
Its like we couldn't walk out of or front door with out some one saying something or some sort of dram happening. I Live at home with my parents and I have two siblings ( brothers ) and my fiancé has two as well ( brothers ). His father passed away when he was around eight years of age or nine due to being very sick, there for it was just his mother, two siblings and him self.

You know when they say the day you put the ring around your finger is the day you marry the family as well! I never knew what that meant until the say I saw the two side of the people I thought I could be a part of, another family I could go to, for help, seaport, love and care.

My finance's siblings are around the ages of 27 and 18.
The oldest sibling and his wife have been suppurated for six months now, due to he finding out she cheated on him stole from him, used him and abused his love they also have a three year old daughter. She was previously divorced before she meet my fiancee's older brother with a child. She came form a Fijian - Indian background who had multiple god to believe in.


The second sibling is 18 years of age and has been with his girlfriend for two years.
Her background is Australian and she's been raised as a Christian.
It's been about five months or more that she found out that she is pregnant.
When my mother inlaw found out of this news she immediately called the Sheikh and got some of her friends together and did there nekah ( other words tided the not. )

My mother Inlaw.
Is a 52 year old scarfed women.
Who has been threw a lot in life losing both her husband, yes both.
Her first wedding was not arranged it was love, and back in the 8O I believe you had no right to do such a thing, they did not believed in it nor did they approve of it, but my mother in law being her self went agains her Father's word's and her Five old brother's words. She got married to the love of her life after a year or so she had her first child after eight months her husband was taken to war due to being in the army and ever since then she has never seen or heard of him, although has dreamed of him as he has spoken to her and has said I'm in a better place. After three years not quite sure she meet my fiancé father who was rich success full business man In Afghanistan.
After a short pried of time they got married and then to follow up was the birth of her second child with her second husband and then the last.
Back in the 6O, 7O, 8O there were such things as a GOD, family, love, respect, fear, loyalty, hope, faith and you could not disobey your or go against you parents words am i right?

So what I am trying to type, Is why does My mother In law not excepting me?
I'am have the same culture as her.
I'am the same nationality as her.
I'am the same religion as her.



My finance and I have been threw a lot in the past two years, this isn't even half the story all I would like to know is he feel as he can not be with me because his mother does not approve of me because she did not chose me for him he chose me, I would like to know why she is calling me a none believer when I believe In the same god she believes in, she has lied to me, talked behind my back, has made it out that I have taken her son away from her and what have you, but I never did such things she kicked her own son out at the age of 18 and my family accepted him living at my house sharing a room with my brother that how much hate she had towards me.

He feels as if he were to marry me he is disobeying his mothers words and that Allah ( swt ) will punish him but surly Allah ( set ) knows what is in out hearts and that we are not doing anything wrong that we love each other and care for each other want a family and for our family's to also be happy.

I don't understand why she makes the non believers believe just in order to be with they guy that they love but she will not accept me because my mother is a shai.

I don't know what to do, or where to go and seek help.

Please could you help.

[philibert63]

Your question makes no sense. Go back to elementary school and learn how to write a sentence.