Does He Have An Opportunity Of Having Custody??

[Deveral]

I'd like to begin by stating that I know that I've made bad choices in my own living, but that does not alter the very fact that I enjoy my kids and I need certainly to move ahead from here.I am a mother-of 4 children. Our oldest is 10 and hasn't seen or talked to her dad because she was 2. No court order or child-support has actually been wanted. I share custody with my ex-husband of my other two kids who're 6 and 4. There's no custodial parent since we share 50/50 custody. Our youngest is 17 weeks and I'm presently seeking assistance for him, but he's arguing paternity.My issue is concerning the center two kids. Your present parenting contract is one week on, one week down. Trades are to occur on Sundays. My ex was thinking about purchasing a residence 20 miles from where he applied to reside in and I informed him when he shifted, I desired my earliest t (with him) to go to schools near his new residence (better schools). I informed him that she might stay with him full-time and come with me every other weekend. I still need my other child (who's not in college) to reside in with me every other week. It has been happening because the end-of Dec. In January and February I asked my ex to keep consitently the younger child on my months aswell to ensure that I might pack and color and transfer, etc... I recently began getting her again on my weeks a few weeks ago.My ex called me to nowadays to state some issues of his. - I don't have a house phone or perhaps a cell phone and it's hard for him to get ahold of me until I've my parents cell phone (like nowadays). They were both turn off and I'm having a genuine difficult time finding another one.- I've not acquired the life span insurance that people were court-ordered to get my January 2004 (I can not afford it right-now)- I owe him money for football and health-related co-pays. I'm court-ordered to pay for within 5 days of obtaining receipts - he offered me receipts in January.- I don't have a constant career, I perform 1-2 days per week at occasions a casino.- I shifted from the 4 bedroom home into a 3 bedroom condo and today my boy and my daughter are discussing a room.His greatest problem is my daughter that's with him all of the period. She's having difficulty understanding why I consider her sibling and not her. He claims she does not understand and it hurts her thoughts that she does not reach come. (I can not get her to college and to her extracurricular activities). He thinks that girls must remain together because they're siblings and that they should not be divided like they're. He claims that he does not feel that I'm performing within the best interest of the children and that because I'm having economic issues (have not settled my vehicle enrollment that was due in March) he worries that I'll not have the ability to supply the things they need.My Issue -Do these issues of his offer him justification to change custody so that he's custodial parent with my being non-custodial and every other weekend?I can not afford a lawyer. Please, any info/guidance may help.

[Fontana]

My 4 year old does not start school this fall 2006.
She won't be 5 until December and will not start Kindergarten until Fall 2007.

[Churchyll]

Those really provide him legal option?? He got truly annoyed with me yesterday after talking-to my child that lives with him and come here every other weekend. I offered my oldest daughter her very own room and my youngest daughter (that I tell him) and my boy are sharing a room. While my other child comes every other weekend, I've my boy sleeping with me and she sleeps with her sister.He was angry because he explained I built her a 'visitor' and did not make it her 'house' because she does not have a room. He was upset since my child is upset the different children 'get more' than she does (material items). I've told her that it appears that they've more, but it's since they're below more. She gets material at her fathers while sheis there they do not get. He explained that she can not realize that and is experiencing 'left out' and that this scenario with not providing her a space is only going to intensify that.It's not on paper that she lives with him complete time - that was a verbal contract and has been taking place for nearly 3 months now. May he have legal option to have the court order altered for her and not for my other child because I still consider her 50% of times?

[Herrick]

Really, I believe he's quite a even possibility of getting major physical custody of both kids. To begin with, you've pretty much accepted that you can't give a financially secure condition for all your children. Your 4yo will be starting school in annually, and it isn't uncommon for Father to claim that she must have exactly the same chance that you're supplying the 6yo - to visit a much better school than you've obtainable in your present region. Then there are the psychological conditions that your older child is certainly going through - her emotions are truly totally legitimate. A 6yo does not realize that "the college is much better". What she considers is "Mother does not love me just as much" or "I should have completed anything wrong." Father is showing her he does love both of his kids enough to struggle for them and their wellbeing. I believe you are set for a significant fight.

[Andras]

Yes they do give him valid reasons to seek to change the custody arrangment.
Whether the court will grant it is another question which depend mostly on the attitude of the judge before whom this will be heard and who we obviously do not know.

[Dover]

Yeah, I figured that. So what will you do then? Send her to Dad's at that point? Seriously - Dad has a very good shot.