Family and alcohol problems...?

[jolie95]

Can someone help with my problem?
I am having some trouble with my mother. She has been drinking a lot. She showed up at my house completely intoxicated (she drove 40 miles from her home). She scared my 6 year old son, and was all over my husband. This is not the first time this has happened. I try to talk to her about it but she freaks out and tries to turn it around or point out all my faults. We all drink in my family..but non one gets funny like she does. When I told her to stop hitting on my husband she acted shocked.. She was like I never do that! Then she got extreme (like she always does) and said that she would never touch him again, or look at him, or shake his hand, she always gets to extreme. She was hitting on my father in law when she was intoxicated. She says she is just being friendly. But when it is making other people uncomfortable and things...I think it is too far. Also she has lost friends because of it. Then when her actions are recipricated from the male she freaks out and says they assulted her and touched her when she didnt want it. *sigh* Sorry this jumps around so much...I just didnt know where to start. I need to confront her, I dont think my dad has. She just gets to defensive and turns things around and looses her mind whenever you try to talk to her about anything. No matter how nice you try to put it. I have debated on going to ALANON for help..or having an intervention.

She is my mom and I love her. I just dont know how to approach her without her freaking out. Any tips?

[orson19]

Can someone help with my problem?
I am having some trouble with my mother. She has been drinking a lot. She showed up at my house completely intoxicated (she drove 40 miles from her home). She scared my 6 year old son, and was all over my husband. This is not the first time this has happened. I try to talk to her about it but she freaks out and tries to turn it around or point out all my faults. We all drink in my family..but non one gets funny like she does. When I told her to stop hitting on my husband she acted shocked.. She was like I never do that! Then she got extreme (like she always does) and said that she would never touch him again, or look at him, or shake his hand, she always gets to extreme. She was hitting on my father in law when she was intoxicated. She says she is just being friendly. But when it is making other people uncomfortable and things...I think it is too far. Also she has lost friends because of it. Then when her actions are recipricated from the male she freaks out and says they assulted her and touched her when she didnt want it. *sigh* Sorry this jumps around so much...I just didnt know where to start. I need to confront her, I dont think my dad has. She just gets to defensive and turns things around and looses her mind whenever you try to talk to her about anything. No matter how nice you try to put it. I have debated on going to ALANON for help..or having an intervention.

She is my mom and I love her. I just dont know how to approach her without her freaking out. Any tips?

She does sound like she needs an intervention.. Im curious if you confront her when she is drinking or when she is sober?? Do you confront her alone, or with your husband?? I would approach her with your husband and tell her that if she is drinking that she needs to stay home.. tell her that her grandson is scared of her when she drinks and that she is no longer welcome in your home unless she is sober.. and then stick to it.. if she shows up drunk then call the police and have her removed.. take your son in the other room though, he does not need to see any of it.. perhaps a night in the drunk tank will help her to realize what she is doing.. sorry to say but I think she is going to have to learn her lesson the hard way.. tough love goes both ways, sometimes it's the children who have to set the example for their parents.. she may call you names and curse you but just remind yourself that you are doing the right thing and that she needs the help.. in the end she is your Mother and she loves you.. her anger won't last forever and she will realize that you only did this out of love.. this is not an overnight solution though.. it will take time and alot of energy but stay positive.. your Mom is worth it.... Good Luck

[ardwyad]

Theirs always a reason mabr shes sad or mad u should spends sone time with her and see how ger day goesmy dads tge same way but i cant do any thing about it right now because im to young but u can just see why she drinks spend a weekend with her and see hiw that goes and think when andy y she started drinking in the frist place

[Mekira]

Hello friend if you suffer having trouble reason mother alcohol drink ..so my ideas you should spend more time with your mother always with her lovely behavior and you should keep her every time busy any work may be she can protect from alcohol