How can one sue his own father for neglecting a child for 25 years as per Indian Law?

by **drystan** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 3:42 am

I am 25 year old man and understand the value of family planning. My parents got married in June 1985 and I was born in February 1986 in mere 8 months! There was no family planning, As soon as my mom got married my dad lived with my mom for a month and then asked her to leave his home and asked her to stay with her mother. So my mom raised me up for 25 years. Now when dad has become old, and due to social pressure and his sisters pressure over property that only if my mom stays with him his sister will not claim her property, he agreed to stay with us.
He didnt have any role in my development as a child and never ever treated me like his child and always took me for granted. He never took any responsibility for my education, health, progress and food for the past 25 years. Now when I am staying with him and mom, he harasses me and asks me to leave the house. He is not assisting me even now financially and always asks me every morning , that when I am gonna leave his house. My mind always used to get diverted from studies, games friends and always used to feel lonely and hurt when I used to see other responsible fathers. I believe that he has played main role in ruining my life and my mothers life. My mother didnot get what she has to get from her husband for the last 25 years and struggled a lot for me without my fathers support.
Now as he has accepted my mothers on the grounds that she will take care of him i his old age, but he wanted to enjoy his life when he was young with out taking my and my mothers responsibility. nearly 1000 people will support me from my community, society, town and family.

I want to claim a heavy compensation from him for treating me and mother like this for 25 years.

And yes I will...

Is there any laws in Indian society for this!

by **yehudi** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 3:43 am

First off, I am afraid to say that I don't know anything about Indian Law.

Your mom raised you for 25 years. Now that your dad is old and needs someone to take care of him he has come back to your mother. There is also some issue about your mom's property which is unclear to me, probably because I don't understand Indian Law. It is something like your aunts can claim her land.

Your mother is responsible for her life and the choices she makes. If she took the old guy in and agrees to care for him in his old age it is her choice. Does she love him or did she marry him only because she was pregnant with you? Did she invite him to stay with her? I bet this hurts you because you have been Man of the House until he moved in.

It appears you and your mother have had a hard life. I have never heard of anyone getting financial compensation other than child support payments up until the child is 18. If your mother never filed for child support, it is too late now. You can choose to spend your life blaming him or you can choose to be a better man than he has been.

It is good to have a good father around, but it doesn't always happen. Believe me it is better sometimes when the father isn't around the kids. It is much more peaceful that way. No he didn't take responsibility for you. You have choices. You can resent him the rest of your life, but that is a painful path. Anger and hate eats away at you (personal experience). It is much more difficult to forgive, but well worth it. You shouldn't forget the things in your life, but find it in your heart to forgive him. You can look back at the things your father did that were wrong and make sure don't do those things in your life. If you are someday blessed by being a father, be a responsible father. Be supportive of your mother and be there for her. Don't marry someone unless you love them and you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Find a child through an organization that needs a big brother because they don't have a dad in their life.

At the age of 25 you have a world of opportunities ahead of you! Put on a new attitude of 'I am going to be better than you' and wear it! Seek education. Find a job and make money. Set money aside and save so you can have a better life. If it means leaving the place you live in, then go and set out for a new adventure. Do this for yourself and for your mother. Maybe you can make a better life for the two of you and not make her so dependent on your father. You can be a hero for her. Stay positive!

Good luck to you!

by **forde** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:02 am

You are 25 and are still living in your father's house? Look in India specially in Mumbai you can get someone killed for 50 000 rupees and if I was your father and my son sued me, guess what; lights out muthalava!!!

by **drystan** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:11 am

You are 25 and are still living in your father's house? Look in India specially in Mumbai you can get someone killed for 50 000 rupees and if I was your father and my son sued me, guess what; lights out muthalava!!!

Sounds like a F_A_G_G_O_T!

by **adalwine** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:16 am

your 25?

by **blaisdell** » Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:31 am

You have all the rights to demand your portion of your father's ancestral property. If your mother wants to live apart from your father, she can apply for divorce and seek compensation from your father for her livelihood. But, always seek your mother's advice before taking any step.

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