I am having some issues with my girlfriend of nearly three years.?

[abraham90]

Okay a little backing first of all. We have been dating a while over the internet, we met up the other month and had the best time of our lives, literally. We match on most interests, both liking pretty much the same things but in different but healthy ways like Pokemon, I grew up in Gens 1 and 2 but she started at 3 and carried on from there, I am Kanto she is Sinnoh. We disagree theologically but we talk about it and have the best non-aggressive discussions ever, other then that we only disagree on minutae like what the best popcorn type is and what makes a brilliant film. things seem perfect, I really can't complain, we have a second holiday together coming up which is where the issues start. I am working my **** off for it, doing over time in my shitty job for it and making sure it all fits in,taking it as serious as if my life depended on it but she is taking it laid back like it will all fall into place. I dont mind the paying and working extra for it, way I see it is its as much for her as it is for me. I left education early and am suffering for it, she is sticking to it and cant hold a job when she is taking psychology, calculus and law. The thing is I don't get thanked for it, not ever, I make the point that its hard going and her response is more of a friendly pep-talk then a "thank you anon, I really appreciate it" which I prefer, and she knows it. Next is the time off, we both work just as hard as one another and enjoy coming home to one another online but recently she has decided to make arrangements with her family and friends on weekdays,usually reserved for me and-her time. Normally I really, really don't mind that, all her life she has had social problems and its a relief she has come out of her shell, I feel I helped as this started after I visited her but she gets a little irritable when I do the same, even siting herself going out as a reason why she is disgruntled "I am going to derpette's house, this will mean we only get a half hour together". This irritates me as I never do that to her. On that note there is the big issue...
A few years back she found out a few of my friends didn't like her, they thought she was being rude when she was being socially awkward, being too fast or forward and sometimes not raising issues with people when she had them ect. This snowballed when an anti-american biggot I knew dug up some dirt on her and convinced them she wasn't real, that she was a man or something. this was before she got a webcam, when photography could only be done on a cheap camera. The issue was that the dates the camera recorded where very wild and the pictures few and far between all depicting a very attractive woman whose name changed regularly. The name changing was all part of her social awkwardness and the date issue on one I personally saw to, her camera is REALLY ******. As you can guess soon everyone was trying to convince me and it got so bad I remanded a time stamp, something that shames me to this day, even we atheists have our crosses to bare. After the fiasco ended she became paranoid about my friends, I dropped the ring leader and convinced the others she was real but I had to drop them fully to re-instate her trust. I can see her point, one day she is minding her own business when all of a sudden she is petitioned on facebook to reveal her true form and I am standing next to the leader full of religious zeal (was still a Catholic at the time and she disliked some catholic beliefs). So all was going fine, after I remove the enemies from my life we become the perfect couple but two issues soon arise. Firstly my best friend from childhood, she sees him as a competition for my love and attention,I drew the line there, I am not gonna drop him, ever. He is like a brother to me, we did everything together but I am forever hers. On the other hand i found out one of my other friends is attracted to her, going as far as to boast that he is going to seduce her away from me to my cousin. My cousin and I don't really get on to well but he couldn't sleep without telling me and presenting his proof. Needless to say I have found out more about this traitor off of none other than my girlfriend, she told me all about him. He is a radical right-winged conservative nut-case who badmouths people he thinks are stupid to their faces... like my girlfriend. He thought the girl he liked was a ***** and hinted at controlling her, he stated to everyone that in his household he will control all the money, he basically acted like a prick but my girlfriend refuses to delete him. I trust her, she likes him around because it is funny watching him act like a fool and she likes the attention off an attractive man. I give her so much attention, why can't she delete him like I deleted the other guys.
I'm not gonna end this relationship, ever, I want your opinions on what to do or the whys...

[eddis]

Dude I ain't getting paid enough for reading that much.


"He is a radical right-winged conservative nut-case who badmouths people he thinks are stupid to their faces... like my girlfriend."

Stop paying SO much attention to your girlfriend and those morons, and start paying attention to yourself. Sounds like her interest in you is going down because you're not being a man, you're being a wuss. Don't just give in to a girl's demands and don't show signs of insecurity. Least of all, don't put all your attention on her, otherwise, where's the chase? where's the interest going to be?

Recommendation: be a man about it, thrust your instincts.