I dont want kids , my husband does ?

by **arrigo** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:39 pm

Well, I know you probably love your husband...but if you and him can't get on even ground about a kid (especially then you probably need to either get a divorce or try to fix things...I am a person who is open to things and wants kids someday so i can't say that they ruin your life because of the fact that you will never ever experience the type of love you immediately get from the second you have your child. It is a natural feeling that you get and it is very nice knowing that you will be able to give the next generation your looks and talents, I mean it is a AWESOME thing. I really think you should try because from the sounds of it, you have good money (better than i make) and I still have 3 kids of my own. And let me tell you, I don't know what I would ever do with out them. I hope you are able to fix things.

by **tiernan** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:48 pm

Well, I know you probably love your husband...but if you and him can't get on even ground about a kid (especially then you probably need to either get a divorce or try to fix things...I am a person who is open to things and wants kids someday so i can't say that they ruin your life because of the fact that you will never ever experience the type of love you immediately get from the second you have your child. It is a natural feeling that you get and it is very nice knowing that you will be able to give the next generation your looks and talents, I mean it is a AWESOME thing. I really think you should try because from the sounds of it, you have good money (better than i make) and I still have 3 kids of my own. And let me tell you, I don't know what I would ever do with out them. I hope you are able to fix things.

I'm in the same situation as you - same age, financially independent and never wanted kids. The only way I would compromise is to adopt a school-age child. I don't like babies at all. It's his bad for thinking you would change your mind (why do they always think that???)...
If adopting a school-age child isn't going to work for you or him, then you really need to do some talking. Hopefully you have a prenup (i'm sure you do if you're anything like me!!). Good luck.

by **rushford79** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 9:00 pm

You should not have married him. By marring him you gave him the hope that you would change your mind. Tell him exactly what you told us here. Maybe he will understand what you have been trying to tell him for years now if he reads it.

You are not going to get him to change his mind. Why would you want to change his mind? You do not want him to try to change your mind. It is best to think about what you both need long term and if it is too different things maybe you need to think about ending your marriage.

by **gideon** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 9:09 pm

There is a book about a women who says she loves her husband more than her kids.. You can just ship them off to Boarding school you need someone to manage your empire once you are dead and gone.. Who better than your kids... I mean imagine if you die and you have no kids another woman might come in and her kids enjoy the fruits of your labor..

You may say thats fine with you but your family mom dad and sister will have no claim at your money

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