I just found out my brother in law is a sex offender, how do I know if he will harm his own child/step child?

[wattekinson86]

He told my sister on their 2nd or 3rd date and apparently she was ok with it even though she has a 13 year old daughter....he was caught having sex with a 15 year old (or so he says; claims it was his girlfriend and her parents found out and pressed charges). My sister didn't tell anyone in our family. My other sister found out and then she told our mom and our mom confronted our sister about it. She said she knew but it was all a misunderstanding and it was in his past. And they shouldn't tell anyone else about it (even though we all have kids of our own). So nobody told and now over a year later I am just finding out. My sister went on to marry this guy a year after she met him and right around their 1 yr anniversary their first baby was born (they want more kids). I am so worried about my niece who is 14 and my nephew who is 7 months. To make matters worse we all just found out that my brother in laws dad just got caught molesting his own 7 year old daughter (the youngest of 10 children)!!!! Is molestation in my brother in laws blood? How do we protect my niece and nephew when my sister stands by her husband and doesn't think (or at least admit) that anything could possibly be wrong??

[ingel]

Wow... serious stuff you got there. I don't know about any way to go about this safely, but do whatever you can t keep the children away from the man. Go to court, if you have to.

[chepito]

He needs to see a professional (the father of your brother in law) and your brother in law as well. Perhaps his dad molested him as a child. Who knows. If you are concerned about your children, you should move away (it seems as though you guys live together, I only assume). If that's the case you should be as far as possible and talk some sense into your sister, because having a trauma at childhood can really affect the life of the child in ways that are unimaginable. Good luck to you.

[tate8]

there isnt much that you can do except talk to your niece. Make sure you let her know that she should keep her baby brother safe and if her step father ever does something to her that its okay if she tells you. Let her know that if anything she always has you.

[crosbey]

Probably not a healthy relationship.

[werner72]

This is a very difficult situation and one that has no real answers. As he already has a record it bears doing some of your own investigation IE: how old was he when this offense occurred? I know that some people get caught up in their emotions when they are young and don't consider the consequences of their actions until they come back to haunt them.

Certainly this situation requires close watching of the children. I had a similar situation when my daughter was young, but luckily I caught my partner "playing" in a very sexual manner with her. Also, my own step father felt compelled to warn me about his feeling about him.

If you have very strong reservations, keep your children away from this man. But before you condemn him, make sure that you are justified to make any accusations. Watch for changes in the behaviour of your sister's children. It pays to be alert. Good luck with this situation.