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[kenway]

So I'm 19 and my boyfriend is turning 21 at the end of June. We've been dating for seven months. He met my step dad before Christmas, and met my mom the day after Christmas. He comes over all the time so he sees my parents a lot. I've been to his house once but no one was there, so I didn't meet his parents. He wants to meet my siblings too but they live eight hours away. He wants me to meet his sister but she is in the uk studying law right now, she is coming back when she's done for the year and I'll be meeting her then.

I don't think he wants me to meet his parents though. His dad doesn't know about me, but his mom does. He talks to his mom about me and has shown her pictures of me but he's never said anything about meet her. I asked why his dad doesn't know about me and he said he just can't talk to his dad about that stuff. One this is I'm white and he's east Indian, he was born and raised in Canada though. They are very westernized, pretty much more then I am. So are his parents. I'm just worried that he doesn't want me to meet them because I'm white, and that's why he won't tell his dad about me. One of his cousins is married to a white girl and they have two kids so it's not like they hate white people, he said they hate brown people.

I want to meet at least his mom, but I don't want to directly ask him because I don't want him to freak out. I just want to feel close to him and know more about him. He's also really close with him cousins, i wouldn't mind meeting them too. He kind of brings up that I should meet his cousins but I never have.

How can I bring this up, without being direct about it? All I want is to be closer to him. We have a really good relationship, and we both see us being together for a long time.

[thom]

what you have do now is ask him that you would like to meet the parents. you have to kind of make it that he has not choice. this has to happen. otherwise he will continue to string you along for as long as he can

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[zadok]

Talk to him, and ask, don't demand to meet them. Explain that you really like him and think meeting his family would be fun.

Understand that this may be a cultural issue for him and even though his mom knows, it may be hard for her to approve. Next time he brings up his cousins offer to set something up with them.

It may just be something he's overlooked, or there could be a bigger reason he's hesitant. Especially if he really likes you he may be worried about the decision he'll need to make if they don't approve.

Starting the conversation is the best thing you can do.