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[curran]

This is a REALLY long story. Ill try to make it as short as possible.
My boyfriend and I met over the internet. (Kind of a scary thing yes.)
Met for the first time after a year of knowing each other.
Dated 3 months later.
He met my family. He loved them, they loved him. It was amazing things were how they were supposed to be.
Then I went down that summer to meet his family. (Keep in mind I was 16)
They did not welcome me. They ignored me. My time there was miserable. I never wanted to go back.
Regardless I did because I love my boyfriend.
The second time I went back we stayed with his brother and sister in law for a week. They accused me of stealing, lieing, cheating, beating their kids and trying to tear my boyfriend from his family. Which I have not intended to do at all!
I now hate his family...all of his family. They disgust me. I dont want to talk about them, look at them or have anything to do with them. I feel I have every right to feel this way. On the other hand my boyfriend doesnt. He thinks his family is in the wrong but thinks I should love them anyway.
But I just cant... I dont want them invited to our wedding, seeing our house, meeting our kids. I want them cut out of MY life or anything to do with ME.
Am I in the right or wrong..

[hawiovi]

If I was your bf I would stand up for you, if yur bf really loves you he will talk to his family. Yu can only do so much, it's not yur fault in any way his family prob just thinks differently(which is dumb).they should accept you. why? Because you make him happy, it's really stupid how people can be so ignorant

[sceley]

Talk to him about how upset you were about the accusations especially about them accusing you of beating their kids. I think if he really loves you he will understand why you hate them. Tell him you would get over it if they apologized and meant it and started treating you with respect and dignity. If he chooses them over you I think you are better off without him.

[barclay76]

Talk to him about how upset you were about the accusations especially about them accusing you of beating their kids. I think if he really loves you he will understand why you hate them. Tell him you would get over it if they apologized and meant it and started treating you with respect and dignity. If he chooses them over you I think you are better off without him.

You ave every right to feel this way but you're not gonna win. Try and fix the relationship because when you marry someone you take on an entire family not just one person. You can't ask him to cut out his family and not invite them to the wedding then you're just doing exactly what they said you were.

[bercnan72]

Who browses the internet looking for a partner at 16 years of age? Just say it . . . you're a BBW/SBBW. That's probably why his parents dislike you. Perhaps, you should consider losing weight, as they're probably thinking that the relationship will have detrimental effects on their son's health.

[gervaso81]

Who browses the internet looking for a partner at 16 years of age? Just say it . . . you're a BBW/SBBW. That's probably why his parents dislike you. Perhaps, you should consider losing weight, as they're probably thinking that the relationship will have detrimental effects on their son's health.

Yes its normal my ex that I love her parents liked me but I hated them and when they found out when I was with her they hated me

[hyun-su]

Family is a huge thing- when you marry him, you marry his family.

[vohkinne]

Umm well yes meeting ppl on the internet is a scary thing so if anything maybe the way u guys met gave them all a bad taste in their mouths,but I don't blame u for disliking them all that stuff their blaming u 4 is sick in the head..that might even be their ways of splitting u guys apart and start conflict with eachother and ur not in the wrong I mean all they should care about is that ur boyfriend which is their family member is indeed happy and that's all that should matter..botton line their imagination seems a bit out there and for ur fiance's sake u should invite them to ur wedding and be the bigger person..for all u kno they might not even wanna go..and than u can wipe ur hands with em and can't say u didn't try..cuz if they dnt get that invite it'll just be another thing to complain about u..oh and try and not hate them and get the best of u.

[nissim42]

Umm well yes meeting ppl on the internet is a scary thing so if anything maybe the way u guys met gave them all a bad taste in their mouths,but I don't blame u for disliking them all that stuff their blaming u 4 is sick in the head..that might even be their ways of splitting u guys apart and start conflict with eachother and ur not in the wrong I mean all they should care about is that ur boyfriend which is their family member is indeed happy and that's all that should matter..botton line their imagination seems a bit out there and for ur fiance's sake u should invite them to ur wedding and be the bigger person..for all u kno they might not even wanna go..and than u can wipe ur hands with em and can't say u didn't try..cuz if they dnt get that invite it'll just be another thing to complain about u..oh and try and not hate them and get the best of u.

Tell your boyfriend to grow a spine and defend you.

If he can't, is he really the man for you? He has an insecure family. You need to tell your boyfriend about what is going on and if he blows it off as nothing, either:

1) Move on, as you are going to be married to his family.

2) accept it and laugh it off as though they are retarded and can't help pissing their beds (not related, but it helps to understand their mutant behaviour.)


Maybe they want his sperm for themselves, some redneck wonderland? Seriously, get your BF to grow a spine.

[ruddy]

"I dont want to talk about them" well apparently you do, otherwise you wouldn't be, well, talking about them.

With that said, I'm with your boyfriend on this one. Furthermore if you intend to marry this guy then it stops being wholly your life, and becomes a shared experience. Therefore cutting them out of your lives would make things very difficult for him, and certainly very upsetting and dysfunctional for any children the two of you have together. You need to find a way to bridge the gap and find some common ground with his family. It will take work, and they may not be respectful to you at first let alone welcoming, but if you really truly love this guy as you say you do, then you'll suck it up and do it.