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[darrell]

Like when we see each other he talks a lot, but through out the week I don't hear from him at all unless I contact him. We've started a new semester of school and he's taking a lot of units and works nights, but we go to the SAME school so I don't understand what boyfriend(who's actually really into a girl) doesn't wanna meet up occasionally or texts good morning or good night. Sometimes I even know we're at school at the same time, he has a class with my best friend and I meet up with her when they get out but I don't even hear from him. He just goes home supposedly I would assume. The thing is when we're together he shows through actions that he cares about me, we talk about our lives and spend time together watching movies or going out. He's told me he's in love with me, yet we broke up a couple weeks ago because he wanted to be career oriented. Then a week later we talked about things and he told me he's just afraid of commitment and scared of his feelings but still wants to be with me, so he asked me to be his girlfriend again. We've been together 3 months. I've never been with a guy like this. Any advice? I try to focus on my life and it doesn't bother me much, but then when I really think about it I'm like wait, I haven't heard from my boyfriend in days. Also, he talks to a lot of girls....strangers..that he just randomly starts a convo with at school. He uses the excuse that he's very social and won't stop talking to other girls just because I don't like it. He even told me he's gotten 2 girl's numbers already for "study purposes".

[sayre]

He's probably just busy and needs his space. My girlfriend had the same issue with me and she ended up pushing me to the point where I didn't want to be with her anymore. If he has time to talk he should want to talk to you and also be able to. Just because he has free time doesn't automatically mean he'll be able to use it on you. Just allow him room to get things out of the way in his personal life and things will fall into place when it comes to you. Just be patient and understanding.

[darrick34]

Confront him about it, say you want to spend more time (via text or whatnot) and see what he says. Ask what keeps him so busy. If you don't straight up ask you may never know.

[aingeni]

"He's told me he's in love with me, yet we broke up a couple weeks ago "

I can tell you right now, your relationship is over

[seager]

"He's told me he's in love with me, yet we broke up a couple weeks ago "

I can tell you right now, your relationship is over

Men are like that sometimes!! Its still normal!!

[unss94]

Okay the moment I read your question, I knew this is all too familar because I'm going through this! I've always wondered why my bf is SO quiet on the phone and online. But like your bf, when we're together he is affectionate, and he talks. I too, have never dated anyone like him, so at first, it bothered me a lot. I thought I was boring to talk to, and we actually broke up because of this. I thought he didn't care, to find out about my life and such things as that. But he says he is just a quiet guy, he enjoys the silence and his free time. It takes some getting used to, (I'm still getting used to this). It's just their personality.
What worries me more is, how your bf says hes scared of commitment? He may be unsure and not want to put forth all of him now, and that is questionable. Try not to put forth all of you yet, take it slow and just see how this relationship goes. But as far as being quiet, that is totally normal. Goodluck !!

[gillivray5]

Good lord, look at the size of the question you left? If that is any indication about how much you talk, maybe the guy just needs some peace and quiet now and then? Men need quiet time more than women, so if he's not in the mood for talking, let the poor guy relax.