Is there any type of therapy that can get rid of deep resentment , espescially towards women?

[dickens93]

ok , in the past, i was considered the weird kid and people ,espescially girls would be very rude to me. im used to social rejection of all types. on one scenario, these girls even made up rumors that i was stalking them (this was in middle school). i never even talked to them, so i wasnt doing anything creepy . they just thought that because i kept pacing around, that i was automatically obsessed with them. girls also gave me crap about being a loner. oh and the last girlfriend i had cheated on me (this one day she completely ignored me to my face and was flirting with this other guy the entire time and then later on she broke up with me), the girl before that broke up with me the day of a highschool dance (like a 2 hours before) because "she was too embarrassed to go with me because everyone thinks im so weird and socially awkward". , and this other time i used to walk my neighbors dog every day (simply because i love dogs) and the neighbors daughter (who i dont care at all about) assumed i was there because i was obsessed with her (so they told my dad about how i was creeping her daughter out and my dad wanted to keep a closer eye on me (all because some stupid stuck up arrogant c*nt wanted to believe that she was so special as to be the obsession of my mind-nothing could be further from the truth, i had no feelings at all about the daughter)

eventually i developed a resentment towards women. i even began reading some men's rights antifeminist stuff online and this made my resentment go ten times higher.seeing how girls treated my brother terribly in relationships also did this. Its been years since a girl has been rude to me, but i now perceive everything a girl does as a sign that she is rude. every look from a girl looks hostile.

when walking past a girl, i feel like a bank robber walking past a police officer. i am constantly thinking "i bet the way i walk is gonna be accused as stalking or something".

and when i heard about the shooting on Friday, i heard that many guys saved their girlfriend and took the girlfriend from them. one of the guys is in critical condition after being shot in the head (meaning likely paralysed and unable to work for the rest of his life) and immediately felt horrible for him and automatically assumed that the girl he saved would leave him just because "she is a girl and girls would never want to take care of a man for the rest of their life-cause their too selfish " and this ended with thoughts of "there should be a law to force her to stay with him"

i think of really bizarre scenarios like that in my head all the time. yea, i can read stuff like "oh women arent all bad" and that works for a few minutes, but in the end it doesnt stop the negative thoughts from happening.

i really want to get rid of this, i mean its affecting my life when you cant even talk to a women because u are so afraid that she is going to be a cold uncaring manipulative person who is probably gonna make up false things about you based on some BS womens intuition thing.

my parents said that they are worried about me because of how deep and intense of a resentment that i have against women.

[pascoe69]

You need to go to a psychologist and have counseling. then I am sure he will put you in group therapy to discuss your issues. You do need to address your issues.

[hurst]

I am not an affiliate of this guy but I do receive his news letter and I suggest you do also, his name is John Alanis. A simple google search will pull him up. The first thing is to ask yourself am I willing to Learn? What he exposes my shock you, who knows if you can handle it.

[wethrby]

I have read your intelligent and insightful post with interest. I think you are well aware of the problem and I would like to answer your question:

I am a woman. I did psychiatric intake work at a good mental health hospital for decades. I am married to my high school sweetheart and he is disabled. And so, I may have some insight for you.

If women have accused you of "stalking", this is no trivial matter because this is a crime...for which you are innocent. And it is wrong for someone to accuse you of a crime without any proof...your civil and social rights are compromised when this happens. This isn't a light matter. And so you are justified to be upset.

Your experience with women and your brother's experience with women hasn't been good. However, this may be because of the women whom YOU choose to become close with. If you look back, it is entirely possible that the women whom you've chosen are immature, needy, narcissistic, self-serving and socially inappropriate. Think about this.

think about WHY this kind of woman attracts you.
think about what YOU are doing to attract this kind of woman.

And I think your anger and resentment toward women shows....big time.
You send off an unconscious vibe to women that lets them know that you look on them suspiciously, resentfully, unhappily, warily and defensively...as though they are criminals. This is how you may be portrayed to women..even unknowingly.
It is possible that your EXPECTATIONS about what a HEALTHY relationship with a woman should be like are not well thought out or socially correct. Remember that ALL relationships are formed with MUTUAL respect that works both ways. Healthy couples help each other and support each other.

And finally, you need to look very, very closely at your relationship with your own mother and the relationship your father has with her.
Has your own mother been supportive and loving to you?
Has your father been supportive, loving and respectful of your mother and other women. If not, this is fueling your inappropriate attitudes about us and is sabotaging your future relationships with women.

A good counselor, a male counselor, could help you greatly with your feelings. Because there is SOMETHING going on for you that is leading you to this and it keeps you totally focused on hating and expecting bad things from all women. And this is not normal. It's not realistic thinking.

Do some thinking on this.
To relate to a woman, you need to put yourself in their place and never control them or attempt to. You need to respect them as human beings and treat them just like your male friends (whom you would never attempt to control). Respect is a two way street.

And regarding the senseless shooting in Colorado; In times of tragedies, we see heroes come forth. We saw it on September 11th. We saw it during Hurricane Katrina's devastation. We saw men and women coming together to help each other, the elderly, even animals. We know that human beings are good at heart and it has nothing to do with their gender, race, creed or nationality.
You need to accept and realize this in your heart.

I truly wish you all the very best.
God bless you.

[ruelle]

It would be a good descision to do counseling because half the population is women. I can see why you have the sorts of feelings you do, but you need to learn to cope.