My Boyfriend's former sexual partner lied about having an STD. Can she get in trouble for doing this?

by **iker** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 12:45 am

After we had been dating a few months, out of nowhere one day she sent him a text message saying, I think you should go to see your doctor and have a test done. He had asked her what test would he need to go get? She replied back saying that he had given her herpes and that he should go pay to have a test done because he had a new girlfriend now. Well I wasn't unemployed at the time and since i am still eligible to stay on my dads insurance i still am, but his insurance is not very good and they don't cover the costs of a test to check for herpes. I did not have the money at the time and knew my annual check-up appointment with my OB/GYN was 4-5months away and thought I would just wait until then. Because if he did give me herpes it had maybe been a few weeks that we had been sexually active, so since I am studying in college to be a nurse I knew that even if he did give me it the test results would not show it in my system so it was fine that i would just wait. Well when at my check-up I had my doctor do the normal exam and then an std exam. my test results came back negative for everything. So i had paid out of my pocket at the doctors appointment for the STD's test as an add on to my other exam for no reason and my boyfriend never had positive results come back for it either. I work at a law firm which deals with plenty of medical malpractice cases for a big insurance company in the area and I wanted to know if there is any sort of legal action i can take against this woman for lying about my boyfriend and/or I having herpes all because she was jealous over us being together (she did a lot of crazy things all in attempt to break us up because she wanted him so badly.) So if i am able to press charges on her for this, please someone let me know because at least then i will be more inclined to asking one of my bosses to help me out with the case. Thank you in advance. =)

by **cumhea** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 12:46 am

Feeling a little sue happy are we?
Maybe you shouldn't have fallen for it?
Maybe it is to soon to tell.
Maybe it should be chalked up as the cost of "doing business."

by **kenway** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 12:52 am

if they have any type of std they have to be regesterd in the hospitle 4 it

by **emilek17** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 12:55 am

No. An STD scare like herpes is not illegal. Well it MAY be but it is nearly impossible to prove it in court. Not worth your time, or the courts. And next time if you can't pay for the OBGYN, go to you local free health clinic and get tested there or your college should have a clinic but I'm sure you dont want them knowing your business.

by **bocley** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 1:09 am

you'd lose.

please go read about herpes and transmission of herpes. there is/used to be a fine site at columbia's medical school.

my memory of it is that the probability of transmission if someone has an active case is less than 50% per encounter. Men are far more likely than women to know if they have an active case -- it can be seen.

however, there is still a positive probability of transmission if a partner is infected by doesn't have an active case. search for "viral spalling" to read about this.

it follows that the more times you have unprotected sex, the higher the probability that you'll get the disease, even if your male friend never shows any symptoms.

since having herpes, even if in remission, is dangerous to babies -- START USING CONDOMS and keep using them ALL THE TIME until after you're married. The risks to any future children you might have that you're taking are morally unacceptable -- how can you, a nursing student, even begin to inflict those possibilities on a baby?

[you can read all about the possible birth defects on the web.]

by **toryn34** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 1:22 am

Absolutely no case.The reason is simple you had reasonable doubt, and I will explain.You could not say one hundred percent that you KNEW that he was STD free.Knowing that the two of you did not refrain from having unprotected sex is the reason you could not be sure.Therefore you had to check to know.Also you have no physical evidence to prove that she intentionally lied, she could indeed have herpes and did the proper thing by notifying ex partners just in case.So you have zero chance of filing any claim.

by **fiacre68** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 1:29 am

The only way you can press charges is if he knowingly had an STD and infected you on purpose. They keep all STD medical records on file for public health safety. If there is no record of him being tested and informed of his condition than it was not a crime. 50% of STD carriers are unaware of their STD. That is why anytime you have unprotected sex you should be tested.

by **jan46** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 1:32 am

Are you really going to sue her for the $300 that you spent to be tested? That's what a lawyer will make in one hour working on your case.

I suggest that you move on. She would just love to be involved with you and him in a lawsuit.

by **teyo** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 1:43 am

No, you can not sue or press charges for this unless you can prove that she purposely infected someone and even then that is near impossible to prove.

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