My girlfriend has left me for my dad...?

[tripp]

Hi, looking for some advice. OK, apologies if this is a bit a long winded read, but here goes...
For a couple of years I'd been going out with a gorgeous girl and as embarrassing as it is to admit it now, i was head over heels in love. She was/is stunning and although she worked as an air stewardess when i met her she had done some modelling. We were really happy together and i thought we'd stay that way forever.

I have a 'distant' relationship with my father. He and my mother (who emigrated years ago) split up when I was very young due to his numerous affairs. My father is loaded and is the manager of his own law firm company and has made even more money through years of property development, he owns a variety of top of the range motors and lives in a house big enough to make even some footballers envious. He's in his late 50's but thanks in no small part to, ahem, cosmetic surgery, looks good for his age and every time i saw him there was a different young 'flossy' (often his secretary) hanging from his arm.

Anyway, around nine months ago my girlfriend decided she wanted a career change and mentioned this at a family gathering. She had worked in PR previously and my dad being the way he is, said he needed a new assistant as his current one was on compassionate leave. She took the job. I immediately feared the worst, but my girlfriend reassured me time and again she had no interested on what she described as 'the wrinkly old father, when she had the gorgeous son...'

So I put it to the back of my mind and things carried on swimmingly, at first. However, I knew something was up when he she started coming home really late, using the 'over time' excuse, and when he bought her a plush new sports car. But i chose to ignore it.

That was until around a month or so later, when things came to head. Big time. She came home from work one night, rebuffed my attempts at small talk and out of the blue said, "Your dad's asked me to move in with him, and I've said yes". I literally sunk to the floor and she basically walked over me to collect her things. I demanded some sort of explanation and she said they'd been 'at it' for months. He's twice her age (she's 25), i don't know who i despise more when i think about that age gap. The way she could be so cold when I genuinely thought she loved me as much as I loved her hurt as much as anything else. I stormed round to my dad's that night, hit him and fled. It made me feel better. For around five seconds. They 'retaliated' by filming themselves having sex on the car he bought her whilst he simultaneously poured a bottle of champagne over her, in what looked like some abandoned warehouse, and emailing the video to me...

A month on and things have gotten worse. I've taken time off work and literally feel empty inside. I'm not suicidal or anything so there's no worries on that score. I just want some advice on how to move on with my life. Thanks for reading all that, if you managed, and again sorry for making it so long, I just felt i needed to say it all in order to properly 'set the scene'.
Thanks.

[osryd]

Hi, looking for some advice. OK, apologies if this is a bit a long winded read, but here goes...
For a couple of years I'd been going out with a gorgeous girl and as embarrassing as it is to admit it now, i was head over heels in love. She was/is stunning and although she worked as an air stewardess when i met her she had done some modelling. We were really happy together and i thought we'd stay that way forever.

I have a 'distant' relationship with my father. He and my mother (who emigrated years ago) split up when I was very young due to his numerous affairs. My father is loaded and is the manager of his own law firm company and has made even more money through years of property development, he owns a variety of top of the range motors and lives in a house big enough to make even some footballers envious. He's in his late 50's but thanks in no small part to, ahem, cosmetic surgery, looks good for his age and every time i saw him there was a different young 'flossy' (often his secretary) hanging from his arm.

Anyway, around nine months ago my girlfriend decided she wanted a career change and mentioned this at a family gathering. She had worked in PR previously and my dad being the way he is, said he needed a new assistant as his current one was on compassionate leave. She took the job. I immediately feared the worst, but my girlfriend reassured me time and again she had no interested on what she described as 'the wrinkly old father, when she had the gorgeous son...'

So I put it to the back of my mind and things carried on swimmingly, at first. However, I knew something was up when he she started coming home really late, using the 'over time' excuse, and when he bought her a plush new sports car. But i chose to ignore it.

That was until around a month or so later, when things came to head. Big time. She came home from work one night, rebuffed my attempts at small talk and out of the blue said, "Your dad's asked me to move in with him, and I've said yes". I literally sunk to the floor and she basically walked over me to collect her things. I demanded some sort of explanation and she said they'd been 'at it' for months. He's twice her age (she's 25), i don't know who i despise more when i think about that age gap. The way she could be so cold when I genuinely thought she loved me as much as I loved her hurt as much as anything else. I stormed round to my dad's that night, hit him and fled. It made me feel better. For around five seconds. They 'retaliated' by filming themselves having sex on the car he bought her whilst he simultaneously poured a bottle of champagne over her, in what looked like some abandoned warehouse, and emailing the video to me...

A month on and things have gotten worse. I've taken time off work and literally feel empty inside. I'm not suicidal or anything so there's no worries on that score. I just want some advice on how to move on with my life. Thanks for reading all that, if you managed, and again sorry for making it so long, I just felt i needed to say it all in order to properly 'set the scene'.
Thanks.

idk, for closure purpose, that you're lucky to know that she was not the one immediately?
well, when she's good enough for you, you'll know and eventually you'll marry her. but seriously, it's better for you to know the truth now, then later when you guys were (maybe) in a law form relationship.

but maybe, if you forgive them, then you'll find you're real closure.
all the best.

[montrel68]

Thats really.. Gross. I doubt she loved you anyway. Your dad, no affence but hes freaking nasty as hell. As everyone says theres more fish in the sea. Dont show your dad your new girl. Lol.