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[lathrop]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for over a year. Im 20 and she's 19. But right from the beginning her mother have hated the fact that i've been dating her daughter. The rest of her family, aunt uncle, grandmother, really likes me. But her mother really don't. And my girlfriend have tried to talk to her for a year now but she is so stubborn and unreasonably. A few weeks ago she said that "im not going to like him, even if its for you". So basically i don't know what to do. And at least i see myself as a decent person who really take care of my girlfriend. I work, i seldom drinks and im aspiring to become a police officer. So i don't see why she cant accept me, and its getting very frustrating. My concern is that this will be even more frustrating if we get more serious for example get married, get kids. I guess everybody wants to have a good relationship with their mother-in-law and not feel despised all the time. Do you guys think i should deal with it, or should i get out before we get more serious...?

[kendon19]

well i suppose you can further try to reason with the mother.
ask her something like "what can i do to at least make you not hate me that does not involve hurting your daughter or doing anything illegal."
and in the end, even if she doesnt like you then do not let that worry you too much

[tonibraxton]

You have got to keep trying and if you love your girlfriend then you can't end the relationship because of her mother.

[avikar76]

You guys are awful young to be considering marriage, so, there is no need to worry about the possibility of this woman becoming your mother-in-law, just enjoy the relationship with your girlfriend and see what the future holds in a few years.

In the meantime, treat her mother with respect but don't try to butter her up, and if she's ever rude to you, just turn the other cheek and walk away. Don't let it bother you, some people are just born with a prejudice against certain people: her not accepting you is her loss, not yours.