My husband is being charged battery for holding me down after I hit him!?

[gillivray5]

my husband and had an arguement the other evening, he is in the military and promised he would make an appointment with his officer for some professional help for depression he is going through due to an injury he sustained whilst on a tour. Anyway we shouted at eachother and I went to bed, i'm on pain meds and took them (they make me VERY drowsy) he came up to apologise and was trying to hug me but I was still peeved with him so I jumped on him and pinned him down by his head. He pushed me off and held me down using one hand and told me never to do that again.

Obviously the arguement continued and escalated and I pushed him out of my way on the stairs causing him to fall down about 4-5 steps..

My husband felt the only way he could get help for his depression and subsequent alcohol addiction was to call the police. He asked me to do this, I said no, he begged and dialled the number and asked me to talk to them.

He told me to tell them that he had a knife - I let them know that I was only calling because he asked me to and because he needs help for his depression and addiction.

The police sent 20 officers to my home with riot shields, dogs and guns -

I was in complete shock they arrested him and then knocked on all of my neighbours houses telling them what happened.

I was then interviewed by two officers a female and a male they conducted a witenss statement and personal victim statement at the exact same time, I wasnt even aware that I was giving a statement and wasnt given any option. My meds had kicked in at this stage and I was falling asleep whilst they were interviewing me - during all of this mess someone from the army welfare was present and even commented a couple of times on how I was falling asleep. The police persisted with their questions, the female officer then began to tell me of an ex boyfriend of hers who was emotionally abusive towards her and compared her situation to mine, i explianed again that I had not been abused... the male officer asked me if I would let my husband come home that evening and I said definately, he hasnt done anything to hurt me I only called to get him help for his addiction. the male officer remarked that he was surprised. neither officers was acutally listnenning to me - treating my a typical domestic abuse case. In the statement that I was made to sign it even states that I was more aggressive than my husband, yet they are charging him with battery. the following morning I phone the station to get an update and to find out when he was coming home, I was told he needed to be interviewed. I told them that I wanted to cancel the statment that I hadnt been made aware I'd even given one and was told in a patronising tone that I should have read the big black writing at the top of the page, i explained I was on meds and falling asleep whilst being interviewed and was told that it was all of a sudden very convenient. I was told twice I could come and collect him from the station. I was then told that I couldnt. I found out later that I could do a statement retraction, the DC who took it was surprised to find that my case was deemed high risk and said he has had worse arguements with his wife. He said the case would never have been sent to the crown if the retraction had come earlier - I attended court to support my husband and to my surprise the prosecution and defence were chatting about the case before it started, the defence was mocking my husband and had told the prosecution that he had denied a couple of sections in the statement but it doesnt matter.. the usher in the court then made them aware that I was the defendants wife and they quietend down very quickly.

Ive made a formal complaint to the IPCC, PSD I've contacted my local MP, I've sent a letter to the chief crown prosecution, I've been in touch with another defence solicitor for my husband and I've also been in touch with a law firm to represent me againt the police for misconduct ... I feel like my whole world is spinning around and I have no control over what is happening.

The magistrates granted my husband bail with conditions not to contact me in any way or form.

[mads]

You writing a book?

You lied to the police and now you want to get a free Get out of Jail card.

It doesn't work that way anymore. Domestic violence awareness has pushed states into making laws to protect people in that situation. At least one person goes to jail for the night to cool off. Then the police and prosecutors decide what, if any, criminal charges need to be filed.

You are in the system now and getting out isn't going to be easy.

Good luck, you may need an attorney.