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[varik]

My mom doesn't like my girlfriend. Mom thinks she is a gold-digger or something of that nature. I beg to differ. Her family may not be as rich as mine, but she is very different. I never see her as a gold-digger. We are both in our mid 20s. She goes to school to be a doctor, she is very smart. She never asks me for money. She is not into big designer labels. She even helps me save money, this girl is unbelievable.
I'm happy with her, but seeing my mom insults her hurts me the most. I told my mom not to disrespect her, but ma won't stop.
I'm afraid that one day she is going to leave me for someone else. She told me before that she wishes that her future mother in law is like her aunt who passed away, she was very loving to all of her children and her sons - daughters in law.
She told me that one of her sisters are also in the same situation, where the mother and father in law doesn't like her, and told her not to call them "ma and pa". My girlfriend told me that she can't keep being stressed out like her sister. She wants to have a close relationship with her family as well as mine.
What a man to do?

[dana]

You'll find out one day why. Trust me

[darrick34]

You'll find out one day why. Trust me

put your foot down pronto tonto. tell your mother to deal with her issues of jealousy or she will lose contact with her son. it is nothingto do with your spouse ,your mother is being nasty and judgemental.

[kalvin71]

You'll find out one day why. Trust me

put your foot down pronto tonto. tell your mother to deal with her issues of jealousy or she will lose contact with her son. it is nothingto do with your spouse ,your mother is being nasty and judgemental.

Tell your mom to stop. If not stop going over there till she figures your not kidding.

[archy]

Tell your mom its none of her business and if she doesn't like WHOEVER you decide to be with then she doesn't have to be around you. That'll shut her up.

[forde]

You need to sit your parents down and tell them exactly how important she is to you and why you know she is not a gold digger and that you want more than anything for all of you to get along because you never want to lose her. Tell them all of this, and see what they say. If they are rigid or have no valid reasoning? Then you have the right to assume they are just being difficult because they want to be, and they need to grow up. Good luck!

[croslea]

You need to sit your parents down and tell them exactly how important she is to you and why you know she is not a gold digger and that you want more than anything for all of you to get along because you never want to lose her. Tell them all of this, and see what they say. If they are rigid or have no valid reasoning? Then you have the right to assume they are just being difficult because they want to be, and they need to grow up. Good luck!

When we got married, neither set of parents approved. We were both 25 yrs old, same race, same religion, both had masters degrees, both had good jobs. Most parents would have been delighted. My parents have not spoken to us since the wedding, 45YEARS AGO. Her parents yelled at us and fought at us till the day they died. Our siblings approved and are a part of our lives. We were just united together against their disapproval. If her parents were over to our house and started in on us, we told them to leave. At their house, we just got up and left, one time during Thanksgiving Dinner. The solution was to be united in our stand. We have been very happy together, still love each other very much. And she still makes me laugh. If we had it to do all over again, we would do it all over again. We have done very well without our families.
If you can be united together then you can make it work. If not, then leave her now.