My mother-in-law lives in our house and i'm losing my mind?

[vipponah]

I am 35 weeks pregnant and my husband’s mother(who I think has an issue with the fact that I am black ) has come to live with us, now in the past she has always had something stupid too say like one time she asked me if I could braid I told her no she what!!! “I thought all black people could braid what!!! You lying you lying” I just brushed it under the rug. She recently got put out of her apartment so my husband told her to come here however she was supposed to be coming here with a job transfer that for some reason didn’t come through, so I thought to myself ok I can handle this it won’t be that long but when she got here the stupid comments didn’t stop she said to me “ when my son told me that you were black I thought it was odd” after that we no longer talk I finally sat her down to put everything on the table and I told her how I felt but all she had to say in return is that she needed to come to terms with my and her son marriage she also told him that he should not believe my word over hers. She thinks that she is number one, and that she should come first before me and the kids and I cannot compete anymore.
This whole thing has caused so much on my marriage and on my unborn child, she does not help with the cleaning, or anything her excuse to why she cannot find a job is that everything is online and she doesn’t know how to use a computer, all she does is sleep all day long when she buys food she buys it for herself or for her son. I feel like I am losing my mind in my own house when my husband lives for work I try to find somewhere go, and though I talk to my husband about the things that are going on and he addresses them I still feel like I am all alone on the matter. More to just push me over the edge she left her feces on the toilet and I made my husband tell her to clean it up she told him that she is not the problem his wife is( meaning me).
It has gotten to the point that even if I don’t see her but I know that she is in the house it will put me in a bad mood and stresses me out. I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!

[naseem]

Take some time off and go stay in a hotel for a week or two. Tell your husband you feel your race is being attacked every time you speak to his mom. Say it nicely. While your in the hotel write a letter saying all the mean things you want to say to her. Swear if Youfeel the need. Read it over. Tear it. Now write it using kinder words. You can choose whether to give it to her or not. Sit her down and instead of talking about your feeling this time, as nicely as possible, explain how you are married to her son and both love eachother, and eachothers skintones and nothing will change that. Explain how not all black people have to know how to braid, just as all white people may not know how to make tea and scones or whatever. We are all just people.