My wife gets emotional easily, how do i help her?

[doran]

My wife comes from a broken family. I have never seen my in laws and the mere mention of them gets her in a bad mood.
Actually her parents had a very rocky marriage but didn't divorce as her mom didn't work. Her dad abused her mom and her mom's family and they fought on petty reasons. her mom became a sadist and taunted my wife for making her life's decisions which included me.
My wife had some goals, but they weren't appreciated. She loved me but her mom kept calling me, names, making personal comments on my look, attitude, behavior and even went to the extent of saying that her horoscopes don't state anything of the sort my wife wants. And like god wont help her as her goals are unholy.

She had applied in the US college and they kept saying what if you don't qualify, mostly negatives. As a result they had bitter fights among them. Her father disowned her five times, her mom in the midst of a fight with her dad said i hope (my wife) gets a husband like her dad.And so on.
I am older than my wife by 11 years and when my wife fell in love with me, i was married with a daughter (My first marriage wasn't a traditional marriage, an open marriage as i had commitment issues but i needed my own baby.)
We hadn't met each other face to face, she kept distance because she was 18-19 and i was 29-30. Now she is 23 and i am 34. We met 2 years ago after a quick divorce I married her.
On fathers day or mom's day shes like upset, my 6 year old daughter asks her about my in laws but she says she has no family except my daughter and me and gets emotional.
I love my wife very much. Shes has so much warmth and is so loving and caring. I hate to see her in tears.
how can i erase or ease those painful memories?

[karlitis]

Bathe her in as many romantic acts as possible.
Really integrate your family unit.
You both have alot of unresolved issues that I can't even help with,
there are many.
Counseling would help you all.
I'm really glad that you all love each other, thats unique and to be
held onto with as much passion and attention as possible.

Keep your own feelings of guilt over her issues to minimum.
You might not even realize you feel this way, but being around
someone else thats upset, makes you upset, as ovious.. this post.
Your her pillar of strength, so you have to stay clear headed.

[alburt]

just avoid any kind of discussion which leads to her mom and dad......give her as much love as u can....u cant erase her painful memories but can just give her support and strength in a positive way......mostly people who have experienced such situations do get emotional very often.....time is the best medicine.....with time she will be fine.....just avoid to be in touch with her mom and dad......

[madison86]

You cannot help your wife. A professional needs to. She may have to cut all ties with her family as they are abusive. Get her the professional help she so desperately needs.

[aldric13]

Unfortunately you can't erase her pain. She may need to seek a counselor. It sounds like she never had a means to channel her pain, no she's an emotional wreck. All you can do is be patient with her and make alone time with her. Not just for sex but just to get away so you can talk to one another and get things off her chest. Don't interrupt or try to come up with solutions everytime and speaks but just listen. Then you'll understand why she reacts to certain things the way she does.

[hackett]

Unfortunately you can't erase her pain. She may need to seek a counselor. It sounds like she never had a means to channel her pain, no she's an emotional wreck. All you can do is be patient with her and make alone time with her. Not just for sex but just to get away so you can talk to one another and get things off her chest. Don't interrupt or try to come up with solutions everytime and speaks but just listen. Then you'll understand why she reacts to certain things the way she does.

My dear friend,

I understand you are very upset because of this problem as per you said it is a kind serious problem . See if her mom call you names you have to react with it . once you started to react they will stop bugging you take a strong step in your life . encourage your wife always if he do mistake also don't get mad at her . Try to understand her i know you do but make her love always how ever you can . take her out once in a week , for dinner .

What is the problem with the US collage can you explain in detail . if your wife and you love each other there is no problem . do you know i am married with a 57 year old girl . and i am only 23 it was a big issue for our family but you have to be strong in your goal ...

Don't believe in astrology . It a only a science , you can't live by listen to this. Pray to god always and try to solve the problem , we all pray for you .

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