Should I break up with my girlfriend?

[delron]

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We met the summer after she graduated high school, I was 21. I have never met a girl like her before, she was just so happy all of the time and I was good at making her laugh. She never missed an opportunity to compliment something I did well. She is also very beautiful. She comes from a perfect family. Her father and mother are local elementary school principals. Her dad also does a lot of volunteering for the church they belong to. Her brother is a math genius who gets paid to study at the University and she has a twin sister that is also beautiful and smart.

From the beginning I knew that I had much work to do in order to be socially accepted into this family. See no one in my family has attended college. My parents had me and my older brother very young and they both had to work full time in order to feed us. This left me and my brother to raise ourselves. Neither us had the sense to do well in school. I only did enough to be eligible for sports. After losing my sports scholarships because of injuries, my only ambition became pot.

Since then I've gotten certified as a personal trainer but still cant seem to make the ends meet. I'm 23 and my older brother and I couldn't make it in the real world, we share our old room at my parent's house again. I feel like soon my business will take off, with lots of hard work of course.

I feel like having my girlfriend's family as an example has helped me work my life in the right direction. I still lack the discipline and concentration to be successful at anything but I am getting better.

My girlfriend attends the University and is currently working 2 summer jobs. Her perpetual happiness has been overcome by stress. Side note, the double summer jobs shattered a promise she made to workout with me all summer so that I can use her as a model for my marketing material... she wrecked her car just a couple of weeks ago so it's a good thing she has two jobs I guess.

At this point all I want is for her to be happy again. I rub her feet and shoulders, make her lunch/dinner, take her to parties on the rare occasion that she has time, if I have things to do the next morning or not. I do everything in my power to lighten her spirit because when we're happy together, life is perfect.

I also used to get lucky on occasion for showing her an exceptional time. That has gone out the window, she says I beg for it simply by trying. I've tried to explain to her that a man's purpose is to try to reproduce, its biology. I've tried telling her that being shut down every time hurts my psyche. I've tried explaining that being one with her helps bring purpose and motivation to work hard for our future. I've tried telling her that our expression of love to one another is the best thing that could ever happen to a person. She's just not into expression anymore I guess and as a guy its what makes me happy.

Just getting her to that point where I feel like I've earner her happiness is wearing on me. She regularly takes out a lot of her frustrations on me. She can be pretty mean and degrading about it too. She also enjoys maligning poor people and talking down on people who don't go to the University and people who have stale careers or live at home with their parents. She puts a lot of value in fashion and loves to talk about men, celebrities or sexy guys on campus, or athletes, or musicians, or successful men at her church and how much she loves them. Or mention how she is jealous of her friends' boyfriends. I'm pretty okay with myself for the most part, I have good and bad days. I realize that my life is a work in progress. However, when I hear these things and consider that I don't receive any praise until I ask for it by making her feel guilty about not noticing my haircut or asking her if my biceps are getting bigger, I feel disposable. She doesn't compliment when I do something awesome, like play the guitar, or hit doubles in my baseball league... unless other girls are around. No more compliments but plenty of remarks about my big butt, or receding hairline, or hairy legs. She love to pinch the little belly fat I have because it bothers me, mind you I try really hard to get rid of it and she never cares to comment that its getting smaller.

I feel like my princess is just that. Her life is perfect, her cup is full and I have nothing to offer. We've had this talk many times. My solution, manual stimulation after a date. That's it, I just want her to know what I really like and care to engage. I mean that would at least give me some security, like some edge over all the guys who flirt with her at school who have definite futures, or on TV with perfect abs, or on the radio with fat wallets and great voices. I know what she likes and what makes her happy and I do everything I can to make it happen. I just want us to share happiness aga

[egan]

I truely think you should show her this whole post you've written.

And maybe just give her more time and space as she seems not clear on what she wants

Please could you be so kind as to help me?
I cried so much am I JUST an option to him?
I've never had a boyfriend I'm 18 Hes 20 please help me? :'(

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[blaisdell]

Make sure shes the right girl for you and not to fit your perfect pictured package of a life as I did.

You're gonna need money.
If the pt thing does not pick up try another course or career.

I would actually talk to her about it once you guys get to know each other more.
try not to have everything planned out though. It almost sounds like you think way into things. That can be problematic if they do not go accordingly.

what if she leaves you? or is not the one? will your world fall apart and you get dependant on her?

carefull is all I'm saying.

give it a shot though.

not all girls want everything planned out. it gets boring.

[wahchintonka48]

To me, it seems like she is pulling away from you. She still wants you in her life because you are comfortable to be with and have always been there. You also sound like you are still making an effort, so she doesn't have to make one right now. Maybe you need to just back off from her and see if she comes towards you. Just start focusing on your business that you want to build, getting clients, and getting into the shape that you want. See if she is willing to make a few steps towards you. Or, maybe you just need to tell her that you are not happy in the relationship and tell her that you are thinking that maybe it is time to separate from each other. Then, see how she responds. Just don't get caught in the trap of "Oh I'm sorry, I love you, I'll change" more than once. Be OK with finding someone who thinks you're awesome.