Should I tell my sister that her husband was saying mean things to my husband and I on vacation?

[rumford]

My sister invited my husband and I to her rental cottage this summer. When we were there her husband often would make it clear that he didn't want us there. He and my husband stayed at the shore while my sister took me a few cottages down to swim where there is a sandy bottom on the lake so I wouldn't have to walk on rocks as I have a mobility issue. When we came back about a half hour later or so my brother-in-law was sitting in his boat and left my husband on the shore alone. I asked my husband if my brother-in-law spoke to him and he said not really. My sister came and noticed and said something like he's not sitting with you? Another time my brother-in-law took us for a motorboat ride and I said something I can't remember and he said if he (my husband) falls overboard we'll laugh. I thought it was mean spirited not funny. Then when we were on our way home and my sister was outside he said to me something like good you're leaving goodbye. We only came on Saturday around 5 at night and left Sunday at 5:00. He is the type who likes to sleep in until 1:00 in the afternoon and he got up at around 9 instead with us and was cranky. My sister noticed that and said ok you don't have to answer cranky he said he didn't and then she put me in the middle and asked me did he answer nicely? I didn't want to get involved but I ended up doing so and I said he's tired let him get his shirt in peace. Anyway he made the whole visit very uncomfortable and I'm sure my sister just nagged him to have us up and he gave in. He is not talkative at all and makes you feel very uncomfortable and my husband doesn't talk much either because he hates being around him and he doesn't like the way he treats my sister nor do I. I am wondering if we should or I should mention to my sister how we felt and let her know it is not a good idea to repeat that vacation again because he seems to want the time to himself. What do you think? My sister often will say to me on the phone and even at the cottage this summer he is grouchy.

[golding]

yes! tell her she has a right to know
then at least she can help you sort it out

[hagaleah]

You sister most likely has enough to put up with as it is. Don't make it any harder on her by telling her you felt uncomfortable . Just politely refuse the invitation next time. I feel so sorry for your sister- poor lady.