What should we do? It's long but PLEASE read?

[ern]

So me and my boyfriend have been together since christmas day but was seeing eachother for a few days before we eventually got together.. Whilst we was seeing eachother my boyfriends ex girlfriend was telling him she still loved him and that she wanted him back and my boyfriend basically told her that he had no feelings for her and he's moved on and she should too. Anyway, my boyfriends ex is cousins with my best friend and she has been texting my best friend saying how much she loves my boyfriend and that if she ever see's me she's gonna hit me and blah blah blah.. Anyway we've just ignored all of these things she's said but since we started ignoring it she's started going round saying that when she was going out with my boyfriend he cheated on her with me which wasn't true cause I hardly even spoke to him when she was with him.

Anyway, yesterday evening I stopped at my boyfriends house and we was watching tv (This was about 4am in the morning) And then there was **** loads of banging on my boyfriends door and it was a load of lads so my bf went to the door and asked them who it was and then my bf heard them say 'you grab him and ill run in and get the stuff' my boyfriend walked away from the door then and then the people outside was like 'let us in we need to talk about everything that's gone on between you and (the ex's name), i aint gonna do nothing just wanna talk' and my bf told them he wasn't aloud anybody in after 12 and then and they carried on trying to get in until next door came out and told them if they don't get off the property she'd call the police.. Anyway, today my boyfriends ex text my best friend asking her where my boyfriend was and if he was with me and my best friend was with us at the time she was texting her but she told her she didn't know if we was together and where we were.. And then the ex text my best friend saying '(My boyfriends name) is gonna get it good and hard, pay back is a ***** but revenge is sweet, this will serve him right for ending it with me' And then my boyfriend got a phone call of someone who had 141'd their number saying that seeing what's happened with my boyfriend and his ex, this person was gonna hurt my boyfriend, and go to his flat tonight and kill him.. So my boyfriend is now stopping at my best friends flat with her boyfriend tonight and his sisters for a week until things have calmed down.. But what should we do? Shall we just leave it and see what happens? We can't call the police because then even more **** will kick off.. So can someone help me? Sorry it's longg :(

[naseem]

No no no, you guys are completely wrong. Go straight to the police and let them know there has been a threat on your life because nine times out of ten, when the police show up, that's an automatic show stopper.

If you decide to ignore it, the other people will do something to you, vandalizing, burgulary, defaming property, or worse like u said murder.

I wouldn't take that lightly and who are these cuckoos saying that bs over a relationship. Be smart and protect yourself though, because something is coming out of this... Go ahead and let the authorities know.

hey can you answer my question too? thanks.

[parnell]

I would call the Police, but if you don't want to do that, how bout talking to your parents? Or your boyfriend's parents. Try to get some help from an adult you trust, good luck.

[wendlesora]

1) Your personal safety is paramount. Remove yourself as far as you can from this situation, physically and emotionally.
2) Until things cool off, stay away from your bf.
3) Advise your bf to do the same.
4) You can ask the police but I suspect they can to little until someone gets hurt. By then it's too late.

Good luck!

[pannoowau]

I'm very sorry for the trouble you are in and this ex sounds like a nasty piece of work. It's a good idea to stay in somewhere else for a while if you are concerned. Although running away will not make the problem disappear. I appreciate you don't want to go to the police, but death threats are serious things and I sure you would hate to remember that you decided not to turn to the police if someone was to be injured. The police will have to look at your case if you present the evidence of the threating text and the incident at 4am as it is one thing to threaten and enough to have a bunch of lads physically show up at the door. Explaining the history between your boyfriend and the ex may also help you to present your case to the police.

I hope this helps and remember the police forces job is to protect society. In this case its you and your boyfriend from a psychotic ex :)

Emma x