Anyone have advice on how to minimize my ex getting visitation rights with my daughter? He's addicted to meth

[blaeey]

You have to be able to prove that he is on meth. You can't just walk in to court and say, "He's a druggie". The best advice I can give you is to pray about it. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but He can do some pretty powerful things if you believe He will.

[curadhan74]

First - get a lawyer. You can find one at no or very little cost through this link: http://www.abanet.org/legalservices/findlegalhelp/faq_freehelp.cfm

Mediation will already be hard for him, with his admitted drug addiction. I'm not in favor of denying anyone rights to see their children, but if he's struggling -that- hard, it may be best for him to concentrate on getting his own life back together, before dragging your daughter across the country.

[norwyn]

go through the courts. Make sure they know he is an addict and hopefully they will make him get tested for meth. There is always legal aid.

[lifton]

go through the courts. Make sure they know he is an addict and hopefully they will make him get tested for meth. There is always legal aid.

It's always better to avoid mediation because they may not decide in your favor and then you have your rights dictated to you. Much better to keep it to an agreement between you and the father if possible. Can you convince him to ditch the lawyer and work something out between the two of you?
If you can't afford a lawyer and must go it alone then the most important to do is show you are REASONABLE.
The mediator does not know who you are or what kind of person you are. Many custody disputes turn into vicious battles. They are supposed to act in the best interests of the child. Show that you want what is best for your child and as reasonably and clearly as possible state why you are concerned about your child leaving the state with the father who may not have proven he is past his drug addiction. ALWAYS remain calm and respectful.
Your objective is to get what is in the best interest of the child, not make it tough for the father.

[joachim]

go through the courts. Make sure they know he is an addict and hopefully they will make him get tested for meth. There is always legal aid.

It's always better to avoid mediation because they may not decide in your favor and then you have your rights dictated to you. Much better to keep it to an agreement between you and the father if possible. Can you convince him to ditch the lawyer and work something out between the two of you?
If you can't afford a lawyer and must go it alone then the most important to do is show you are REASONABLE.
The mediator does not know who you are or what kind of person you are. Many custody disputes turn into vicious battles. They are supposed to act in the best interests of the child. Show that you want what is best for your child and as reasonably and clearly as possible state why you are concerned about your child leaving the state with the father who may not have proven he is past his drug addiction. ALWAYS remain calm and respectful.
Your objective is to get what is in the best interest of the child, not make it tough for the father.

There are alot of details from you I would need to know before I can advise you on this-like were you married to this guy,does or has he paid any kind of child support? Also,I do believe,that if you have sole custody of your child,the other parent can not take the child out of state without legal permission.It depends on the situation. Also,I am assuming you do not have a known past history of any substance abuse,that would further complicate the matter. Does he have any domestic violence charges on him in the past?Does he have any kind of criminal background? There are sooo many things to concider in this situation. If you need to further talk about this,contact me.

[ji]

just inform the courts that he has admitted to you, and others if possible that he's addicted to meth. explain that you don't feel comfortable leaving your child alone with him, especially in another state. ask for suprervised visitation too.

[newyddilyn60]

tell the court and the can do a drug test