Are women from the groom's side supposed to be invited to the bridal shower? I have a problem?!?

by **zackary42** » Sat Jun 30, 2012 6:34 am

Wow, I am totally disagreeing with these answers. The one piece of input a bride has for her shower is who gets invited. She probably should have invited her future MIL, but she's perfectly correct in not inviting people she doesn't know well. In fact, people get criticized for this because of the gift that's required. I always cringe when I get shower invites from people I barely know.

Showers are not family reunions. And if her MIL want to throw one for her "side" and do it locally, she's free to do so, as long as there is no duplication of guest list. She does not have the right to rip into you at all. If she has issues with the invite list, she needs to take it out on the person who made up that list, and with a shower, it is never the hostess.

by **hurst** » Sat Jun 30, 2012 6:38 am

she was rude to call

by **trucker** » Sat Jun 30, 2012 6:54 am

You purposely EXCLUDED his side of the family. Your reasoning sucks. Whomever planned this shower has zero social grace and even less compassion for the groom's family. This behavior is down right shameful. Anyone who goes along with this is self absorbed.

By excluding his family, you are robbing them of the joy in participating in their relatives wedding festivities. You guys are so wrong, oh so wrong.

Anyone involved in these plans have insulted the grooms family as it was not an oversight, it was a deliberate plan not to invite the groom's family. Wrong, oh, so wrong.

You guys owe them a sincere apology and should invite them.

by **gilleabart** » Sat Jun 30, 2012 7:00 am

Regardless of whether she should be invited, it was very rude of her to call you. What you should have said was, "The guest list was supplied by my sister. If you think you should be invited, please talk to my sister or your son". And then hung up. You should do the same if she calls again.

I know you were put on the spot and suggested a lunch, but that wasn't your place. Relationships with the mother in law are entirely the business of your sister and her fiance. She will not be your relative, it is none of your business, and it's a pity you've been dragged into this. Phone your sister and get her or her fiance to sort this out with her. And if your sister says invite her, then of course invite her; otherwise no.

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