Can't stand my mother in law! Help!?

[lifton]

I really can't stand my mother in law. She has never treated me like family. She is awesome to my kids, so I don't complain much. I just hate when she comes over because my husband goes outside with his Dad and leaves her inside with me. We have nothing to talk about! I'm often in and out of the hospital due to an illness and she never calls or offers to help with my children. I just really don't want to be around her and I need a way to tell my husband.

[charlot22]

I really can't stand my mother in law. She has never treated me like family. She is awesome to my kids, so I don't complain much. I just hate when she comes over because my husband goes outside with his Dad and leaves her inside with me. We have nothing to talk about! I'm often in and out of the hospital due to an illness and she never calls or offers to help with my children. I just really don't want to be around her and I need a way to tell my husband.

Perhaps you should try a little harder to get to know her.Let her know that you love her son and wished you and her had a better relationship because she is your children's grandma.Ask her opinions on something so she will feel more needed.make a nice lunch for all of you and let her know what a great grandma she is .Perhaps she can feel that you don't like her and does not know how to go about fixing things.At least you can give it your best shot and if it does not work out then talk to your husband and let him know that you do not know how to deal with his mom and need some advice from him to make things a little easier for you.

[patwin87]

Tell her you could use more help and less criticism. Tell him not to abandon you with her.