Classmate, who I went on one date with, is obsessively harassing me. Help?

[kendell]

Two months ago, I went on a date with a classmate. At the end of the date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I told him I thought he was being too serious, that I wasn't interested in being in a relationship, and that I was only interested in being friends. He was upset, but he agreed.
We had a few friendly meetings, like getting coffee, toward the end of February into the beginning of March, but he was still constantly flirting with me and even attempted to kiss me, so I told him that I had no interest in him and that he needed to respect my space. I cut off all contact with him; however, he has been constantly sending me very strange texts, such as "you know I'd do anything for you", "I'm hurting worse than I thought", "I live alone. I was a hermit. Then I met you.", "look w/e about respecting your space. if you are creeped out then too bad" and being very adamant that we meet in person to talk. I've been ignoring all texts from him and trying to avoid encountering him in class, but last week, he followed me out of the classroom and down a stairwell, calling my name. Also, although it may be by mere coincidence, I have also been running into him around areas of campus that I like to frequent, and he has also been publicizing on Facebook that he has been reading my favorite books, listening to my favorite bands, etc.
Last night, his texts became a little more disturbing than usual, so I demanded that he stop contacting me. Instead, he continued to send me over 20 texts between the hours of 11-4 am, and again at 7-8. These texts suggest, to me, that he may be mentally unstable.
The actions I have taken today, so far, have been to block all incoming texts/phone calls from him through my wireless carrier, block him on facebook, and to contact campus police. However, I still have to see him every Tuesday/Thursday for the remainder of the semester. I am uncomfortable with the idea of being in such proximity to him. Now that class is his only method of contacting me, I feel as if he may do something drastic next time we are in class together. I'm meeting with campus police today, but do you think I'm overreacting? Also, should I notify my professor about this problem?

[cumhea]

Two months ago, I went on a date with a classmate. At the end of the date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I told him I thought he was being too serious, that I wasn't interested in being in a relationship, and that I was only interested in being friends. He was upset, but he agreed.
We had a few friendly meetings, like getting coffee, toward the end of February into the beginning of March, but he was still constantly flirting with me and even attempted to kiss me, so I told him that I had no interest in him and that he needed to respect my space. I cut off all contact with him; however, he has been constantly sending me very strange texts, such as "you know I'd do anything for you", "I'm hurting worse than I thought", "I live alone. I was a hermit. Then I met you.", "look w/e about respecting your space. if you are creeped out then too bad" and being very adamant that we meet in person to talk. I've been ignoring all texts from him and trying to avoid encountering him in class, but last week, he followed me out of the classroom and down a stairwell, calling my name. Also, although it may be by mere coincidence, I have also been running into him around areas of campus that I like to frequent, and he has also been publicizing on Facebook that he has been reading my favorite books, listening to my favorite bands, etc.
Last night, his texts became a little more disturbing than usual, so I demanded that he stop contacting me. Instead, he continued to send me over 20 texts between the hours of 11-4 am, and again at 7-8. These texts suggest, to me, that he may be mentally unstable.
The actions I have taken today, so far, have been to block all incoming texts/phone calls from him through my wireless carrier, block him on facebook, and to contact campus police. However, I still have to see him every Tuesday/Thursday for the remainder of the semester. I am uncomfortable with the idea of being in such proximity to him. Now that class is his only method of contacting me, I feel as if he may do something drastic next time we are in class together. I'm meeting with campus police today, but do you think I'm overreacting? Also, should I notify my professor about this problem?

I don't think you're over reacting at all. You sound like you're dealing this in a very mature way and you are right to be nervous about seeing him. Make sure you surround yourself with friends and people you trust until you've spoken to the police about it. Goodluck!

[gedalyahu]

Yes, you should tell the police campus person cause this guy sounds crazy as hell.

[ayize]

The second you get a chance, look into go onto the county ( in which you live ) website and look and see how you get a restraining order. Keep all text message and everything. If the restraining order does not pan out, call the police. Please be careful, some people are weird, just watch your back and be smart. Best of luck to you

[gideon]

The second you get a chance, look into go onto the county ( in which you live ) website and look and see how you get a restraining order. Keep all text message and everything. If the restraining order does not pan out, call the police. Please be careful, some people are weird, just watch your back and be smart. Best of luck to you

[abelard29]

You are definitely NOT overreacting! You seem to have made it quite clear how you feel about him and he has elected to ignore your wishes. Time for you to take serious action. Tell everyone who might be able to help you avoid further contact with him. Tell your professor, the campus police, your adviser, and anyone else you can think of. With all the dreadful things that have happened in situations like yours, don't even think about overreacting!

Good luck!