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[devon]

My mother in law wants to put pig lard on my 4 month old daughters chest because she thinks it will help her RSV congestion go away. She also wants to mix dish soap, raw eggs and oil and put it in her socks on her feet overnight to draw out her fever. What the hell is wrong with this lady??? Now I feel as though I can never let her babysit. She is from a different countryand her methods are crazy!! Wtf??? How do I even handle this? My husband is a chicken and won't stand up for me. I don't know how to explain to him in a nice way that I don't trust his family.

[ealahweemah72]

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OMG! Dishsoap on baby feet??? WTH?
Lard on her chest??

I hope someone has good advice for you. All I can say is: Stick to your guns!!! That poor baby-- you are right not to trust those crazyass inlaws.

Maybe go on the internet and print up info on why those things are bad for the baby. Surely these must be debunked home remedies! Find the debunked reasons,print them up and present them to the mil. And, don't let go of your baby while you are in their house!

Lard on her poor little chest?? The idea! Gross and disgusting.

[jabin20]

To be honest, those methods are kinda gross, but are not endangering your kid in any way... Let her do it, do not do it yourself, lie to her tell her that yes, you did, but did not help, and like I said, does not seem like she is putting your baby in danger, just having old crazy recipes, let her do it.

My mother in law said that dressing the baby in a inside out yellow shirt will make him sleep better at night, did it help? Not at all, but she knocked herself out trying it every single time she came have dinner at my house and would help me picking his pjs after his bath....

[deangelo51]

This is YOUR baby. Tell your in laws that you love them and appreciate their advice, but you want to care for your child your way because you would feel better about it and that you want to be able to take care of your own child, not have someone else always handle the problems. It's a sticky situation but you have to let them know straightup or else they'll always be taking over like that. Raw eggs and dish soap?? Pig lard?!! Sounds like an absolute made-up home remedy...

[nemausus36]

Well then, like I tell my kids, there's always a solution and a right way to say whats on your mind AND to stand up for yourself. Your a grown woman, if he wont do it then take control of things yourself hun. Sometimes we have to respectively(did I just make up a new word?) Be bold, we don't say anything then ppl will continur to walk all over us. Trust? Is it that or just an issue of how they do things, I'm sure she loves the baby and wouldn't do any harm to her. Guys are always mama's boys, my brow on law is the same and my sis finally got fed up with things and now says what's on her mind...yes they're still married and the in laws still visit them, quite often I might add. Hope you get thrum this.

[patwin87]

Just continue to politely decline her "treatments" and humor her. You don't have to let her babysit if you don't want to, and you don't have to do anything so long as she is not causing any real problems. We have a crazy cleaning lady at my work place (she goes around telling people she used to make $8000 a week in the military, and that she once lifted a car). All my coworkers deal with her like that. They just nod and smile politely.

Also, although letting your husband know about your misgivings is fine, it may not be a good idea to get him involved in this. It would force him to chose sides, and that never turns out well.

[felabeorbt]

Wow, Im sure it is difficult to deal with this. There have been quite a few home remedies especially in the "old country". My Italian grand and great parents were born there and although many of the remedies dont hold any water, some do, and the majority dont hurt anything. The remedy becomes an issue when you, as a parent, doesnt agree for any reason.
For me, I would firmly explain that my childs responsibility is mine and I am up to date with modern technologies and have full faith in my pediatrician. I would add that I value your input but I would hope that you respect my wishes...
How do they respond to your wishes and do they respect you? Maybe you really need a serious discussion with your husband because it is extremely important to back each other up especially with in-laws...
Im lighting a candle for you lol